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O amintire
“Late at night, walking along a dark, deserted street in Mexico, dogs barking in the background. It was hot. I was wearing a short skirt without underwear. I was looking downward to ensure my footing when my boyfriend started tugging at my skirt. He licked his fingers and began fingering me right there in the street. The stars were plentiful. We went off the road, against a wall. He was behind me, his shorts around his ankles. No words were said.”
Attraction and Dating a Cancer
CE VĂ ATRAGE LA CINEVA?
A man’s eyes, his general overall grooming, and his smile are the first elements that attract Cancer’s attention. He needn’t have the physique of a bodybuilder.
“I can be attracted to almost any man if his personality is right. I don’t care about size or hair. The first things I notice are smiles, his eyes, a kind face, his thighs, his butt.”
“Energy, maybe it’s pheromones. Physique is not really important to me; it is more the person himself.”
“Physical attributes don’t factor into what turns me on. It’s usually behavior that gets to me.”
CE TE-AR PUTEA OPRI?
She is turned off by a man who pays little attention to his teeth or who bites his nails, as well as by aggressive behavior. In addition, as she cares enormously about family, it is disconcerting to her if a man is distant from his relatives.
“If he has bad teeth that can be fixed [or if he] has bad style that can be fixed. It is negative or crude behavior that turns me off.”
“What turns me off most is a man who is overly materialistic, putting too much emphasis on fancy clothes or expensive cars, or [who] thinks he is better than everyone else.”
CE VĂ PLACE SĂ FACEȚI LA O ÎNTÂLNIRE?
The Cancer woman enjoys active dates, doing things like bowling or playing miniature golf, especially at the start of a relationship when she may be feeling a bit unsure of herself. One thing is always indispensable: sharing food.
“I enjoy going out to dinner and participating in interactive activities that allow you to get to know your date. Bowling is good.”
“A good date would start with going out to dinner. Maybe we would take in a movie or do something athletic like hiking or biking.”
O fantezie
“We meet on campus between classes and go into a classroom thats seems to be closed off from the world. I walk into the room and he surprises me from behind and whispers in my ear things that almost turn my skirt inside out. Then we just go for it.”
FLIRTEZI?
She can be somewhat flirtatious, but not overly so. Especially in a new situation, Cancer is cautious, somewhat shy. Once she is comfortable with a man or in a group, she can be quite flirtatious.
“I’d say that I am, but subtly. I am a bit shy.”
“My flirting is subtle. I come across as generally friendly, and happily there is something about me that men find attractive.”
EȘTI GELOS?
“I feel” are her key words. She is emotional by nature and the feelings that she experiences include jealousy.
“Definitely, and of most living, breathing women …”
“I am very territorial, but not insanely jealous.”
CE PĂRERE AVEȚI DESPRE MANIFESTĂRILE PUBLICE DE AFECȚIUNE?
Given Cancer’s somewhat possessive nature, when her partner hugs and kisses her in public, she feels reassured about his affection for her.
“I think they are healthy. If you care about someone you shouldn’t hide it.”
“Holding hands is okay, hugging and little pecks are okay. But I don’t like to see people making out everywhere.”
“They are fine if kept minimal and within the realm of good taste.”
O amintire
“Doing it in a DJ booth at a night club with one-way windows. We could see out on the dance floor while everyone danced around us. It was very erotic. The music really got me going, the secrecy of it, and the high emotion between my partner and me.”
Atitudini și comportamente sexuale
HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX?
Cancer is a very sexual Sign, and she thinks about sex to the point of almost being preoccupied with it. She might want sex more frequently, but she’ll be content with four encounters per week.
“In my mind I can turn almost any situation into a sexual one, even business.”
“I want it any time my teenage kids are out for the evening!”
“I will take it whenever I can get it.”
HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY? DO YOU ENJOY QUICKIES?
She likes to spend 30 minutes to an hour having sex. A man who shortchanges her in the foreplay department, especially in terms of fondling and sucking on her breasts, won’t be around very long. Quickies are okay on occasion.
“I like both. If I could only have one, I’d choose two to three hours over a quickie.”
“Thirty minutes or more of foreplay is just right. After eating and shopping, my favorite activity is foreplay. I enjoy that even more than intercourse.”
“I love quickies and slow buildups, but when the actual intercourse happens, I like the guy to go crazy and cum pretty fast. I like that take charge and ram it home feeling.”
O amintire
“It was October, cold and windy. We climbed to the top of an observation tower. He had told me not to wear underwear. At the top he lifted my sweater. The wind touched my nipples, making them hard. He was behind me, lifting my skirt. I heard his zipper. He grabbed my
nipples, pushed me over and entered me. It was hard, fast, exciting, and wonderful. I could smell the ocean in the wind. I could see the lights on the bridge. It was a clear night. Perfect.”
WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?
She loves mornings but her preference is apt to change now and then. The moon rules Cancer, so perhaps her pleasure changes with the phases of that moon.
“Eleven [in the morning] or early in the night before I get too tired …”
“I like the morning, because I am rested and relaxed.”
“Anytime is fine, but mornings seem to be especially intimate for some reason.”
“Anytime, but I really do like the morning.”
HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?
She usually pleasures herself two or three times weekly, more if her lover turns her on with a phone call but can’t make time to see her.
HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?
Cancer is highly intuitive and trusts her instincts. When she’s interested in a man and believes he returns the feelings, she becomes sexual. This could be as early as a second date. In some cases she wants to wait a while, but seldom longer than one month.
“As I see it, sex doesn’t equal love. Getting sexual depends on the mental connection and how safe I feel with the person.”
“It’s usually the first or second date. I don’t want to get emotionally involved until I’ve had sex. If it isn’t good, why bother with the relationship?”
“It varies: a night, a month. [It] depends on the amount of physical and emotional connection I feel with the person and what I want at that moment.”
O amintire
“I took my clothes off and sprawled myself out under the dark sky. It was so much a world all to ourselves. The highway lights became stars. His body covered me. My legs wrapped around his. Kissing and kissing. I opened my eyes and saw tattered clouds whizzing by behind his shadowed face. We were interwoven and flying. I was holding on for life.”
WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?
Even though she may get sexually involved with a new man in short order, Cancer makes a distinction between that and anonymous sex. Sex, just for physical release, doesn’t appeal to her. She considers it unsafe and does not find it at all satisfying.
“I need some emotional connection or deep desire to get really turned on.”
“It’s risky, less satisfying.”
“I don’t agree with casual sex. Personally, I get too emotionally involved for that.”
CREZI ÎN MONOGAMIE?
Cancer cares enormously about family and, as a result, she values monogamy highly. Nevertheless, sex is tremendously important to her and an unsatisfactory sex life will be detrimental to her relationship.
“Seventy five percent of sex is mental. Therefore, you can control yourself if you choose to. Also, I feel monogamy adds to the feeling that we are in our own special world.”
“I have been faithful to the same guy for twenty-six years, and I can’t imagine being with anyone else.”
“Sex is emotional for me. Therefore, I don’t sleep with someone unless I feel a bond. I only sleep with one person at a time, and I expect that in return.”
O fantezie
“I have a fantasy of my wedding day. I’m in a beautiful white lace and satin gown with a sheer veil. I feel like a princess. My new husband takes me and then wraps me like a present. The love is tender, with lots of kisses and declarations of his love for me. The bed is huge with lots of fluffy pillows. Soft light filters through the balcony doors. I feel safe, like his love for me can never die.”
DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?
The core of her being is love and family. When the Cancer woman promises to be faithful, she is making a sacred vow. The idea that a commitment is sacred feeds into her sexuality and brings a spiritual connotation.
“It is an exchange of intimate energy, and it is the ultimate way one can do this.”
“It does when you and your partner are in love. If not, though, sex can still be excellent, but that super satisfaction is not there.”
“Sometimes it feels like you are seeing into each other’s souls, experiencing something out of this world, feeling so good that it is not of this plane.”
ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?
Cancer is shy in the initial stages of a relationship and won’t be the one to introduce the subject of sex for the first time.
HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?
While Cancer is very responsive emotionally, she is hesitant to express herself verbally. She trusts that her partner will be tuned in to her sufficiently to read her body language.
“Mostly by gestures … I move his hands or body where I want them.”
“My eyes explore and reflect my inner emotions.”
“I am not very good at communicating. I guess I just do it.”
“With my hands, rarely with words …”
DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?
Cancer is an experimental lover and open to a range of experiences that nearly always includes the use of food, preferably sweets such as chocolate, whipped cream, and sweet melons more likely than tart strawberries. She will also try dominance and submission, bondage, sex in public places, spanking, and wearing sexy lingerie. Her use of sex toys is generally limited to dildos and vibrators.
“I can be mild or wild; depends on the moment and the man.”
“I will definitely try a variety of things to spice the action up.”
“I am pretty open to anything if I am in the right state of mind or mood.”
Her fantasies frequently incorporate sex with another woman, a ménage à trois, bondage, and being spanked.
Fantezii
“I am a submissive being humiliated by a dominant man who verbally humiliates me, then farms me out to his male friends to make sure that I know I am his slut, to be used any way he wishes.”
“I am a machine and many men come up to me, deposit a quarter, and my legs open. Then they stick their dicks in me, satisfy themselves, and move on.”
“Having sex in a public place without fear of getting caught. Having a penis for a day and allowing my boyfriend to perform fellatio on me so I know what it feels like for him when I do it.”
HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?
Cancer is a nurturing Sign for whom the focus of life is the home, the family, and food. She shows her regard for her partner by cooking for him and tending to his needs.
“I feed him, make sure he is okay. I am a mom.”
“Cooking for him (I know … how typically Cancerian.)”
“By making a special dinner, sitting on the sofa and reaching over to give a soft touch or kiss.”
“We touch each other a lot. As I was typing this, my husband walked by to get a cup of coffee. He touched my shoulder and gave it a gentle squeeze. We hardly ever pass by one another without touching.”
Cele cinci simțuri
HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?
Considering that Cancer is the sign that rules the home, it is a bit surprising to find that the setting for sex is not of great importance to her. Passion matters far more. Beyond cleanliness, the overall environment does not concern her much at all.
“If I am really in the mood, I don’t think about that.”
“Sometimes I like to have a nice atmosphere: clean, orderly, low lights. Once in a while it is nice to just go for it without concern for the surroundings.”
“Dim lighting is always nice, and a clean place shows that he takes good care of himself.”
O amintire
“Candlelit bathroom, warm water in the tub, bottle of champagne waiting, [my] lover in a towel greeted me at the door, undressed me, lowered me into the tub. We bathed with scented soaps. We drank wine and lay together in the tub. Then he carried me to the bed. I was still wet and our lips never left each other.”
UNDE ÎȚI PLACE SĂ FACI SEX?
While she may not want to be observed, Cancer does love sex in public places, such as on a stretch of secluded beach, a dark rooftop, or in a car parked on an isolated road. Her number one thrill is having sex in the woods with the sounds of crickets and birds and smells of the earth and the trees.
“Outdoors in a public place can be exciting as long as no kids or grandparents might stumble along.”
“I prefer to be in bed or somewhere warm and comfortable, but I would love to have sex on a private stretch of beach somewhere.”
WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?
Emotional Water Sign Cancer is turned on by almost anything relating to water and by gentle loving actions, romance, and by all things that signify the closeness—the emotional connection—she shares with her partner.
“I am always in the mood. I love it if he brings over a small gift, candles, or flowers. Then I put on jazz, touching me while we are relaxing, especially my nipples. I love massage. I like it if he showered with a fragrant soap.”
“Showering together, watching or reading sexual material, dancing, and ice cream.”
“I get turned on by being joined in the shower or sitting on the sofa and cuddling.”
“I get excited hearing romantic music. I like being massaged or tickled, and I like to touch and rub my partner.”
O fantezie
“A foursome with my husband and a friend and her boyfriend. My husband isn’t allowed to touch anyone else, but I can and I do. I make out with my friend and it’s so hot, caressing her chest and touching her where it drives her boyfriend crazy, but he can’t touch her either —until I let him. They drool watching us until we share each other with them. Maybe we blow one of them at the same time until it drives the other one crazy, and then we switch. But actual sex will be reserved for our partners. Everything else is up for grabs.”
WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?
The Cancer woman has very little interest in adult videos, especially as a part of foreplay. After all, why watch someone else do what she is perfectly willing to do herself? She may use adult videos privately for self-stimulation, but even this is rare.
“I enjoy erotica. To me an adult video is just a lot of naked bodies with no text or creativity, boring within ten minutes.”
“I used to dislike it and felt threatened when my boyfriend used adult video materials. Recently I have become more accepting of it, but still have only slight interest.”
“I like erotic photographs and reading adult erotic literature. I find adult films to be crude. A movie like 9 1/2 Weeks is more exciting for me.”
HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?
Touching people is part of Cancer’s nature. She hugs and kisses friends naturally. With a lover, she wants signs of affection frequently: cuddling, a touch on the shoulder, holding her arm when walking. For her, being close is not always a prelude to sexual activity.
“Sometimes cuddling is more satisfying than sex.”
“I love to cuddle with no strings attached.”
“I like to cuddle in front of the TV or read with my partner, especially in bed at night before sleeping.”
CÂT DE TACTIL ȘI CÂT DE ORAL EȘTI?
Cancer loves to explore every inch of her lover’s body with her hands. She enjoys kissing her partner’s lips, neck, chest, and arms. She is likely to withhold oral sex until she feels secure in a relationship.
“I love deep kissing almost more than sex. I perform oral sex only if very involved with someone.”
“I like to feel every inch of him and I love oral sex, but only when it is not expected of me. Deep kissing is awesome.”
“I like the feeling of closeness and touch during lovemaking. I enjoy deep kissing and light kissing on my lover’s body. I do not like oral sex as a rule.”
“I am very oral. Give and you shall receive.”
O amintire
“In a hot tub, warm water [and] out in the cold night air. We had sex in about ten different positions and he kept telling me how beautiful I was. The water jets were bubbling all around and I felt kind of like a mermaid. I came four times that night. The next day I was exhausted.”
WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?
As Cancer is the sign that rules the breasts, they must always be attended to—caressed lovingly and sucked with passion. They make a perfect place to paint on a dollop of honey. She dislikes anal sex or anything that causes pain.
“I always love kissing and intercourse, oral sex sometimes, and my breasts. Yes, always touch them.”
“I like intercourse, oral sex, mutual masturbation all while fondling my breasts and kissing them too.”
“I’ve never tried anal sex and never want to.”
AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?
Cancer is by nature nurturing, and she strives to satisfy her man. Her most important skill is her ability to understand what her lover needs.
“I think my best skill is being tuned in to my partner. I strive to adjust to what he is responding to.”
“What works best for me is showing the proper attitude toward my partner.”
“My skill is how I follow my partner’s gestures, as if I were reading his mind.”
WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?
Cancer loves her partner’s natural smells, fresh sweat, and also his cologne if it’s light and a bit woodsy. She likes the taste of her partner’s lips and nipples, and she enjoys mixing food with sex.
“I love the way his face smells after he has shaved.”
“I like the smell of his skin, his cologne, and his smell after sweaty sex.”
“I love the smell of clean hair, the smell of soap, and as far as tastes go, a little sweat.”
“I enjoy the smell of him and the taste of whipped cream.”
FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?
Cancer performs oral sex because she wants to please her partner. She may find the taste of cum unpleasant, and she prefers that her partner not cum in her mouth. Flavored oils or even a flavored condom help.
“The taste is unpleasant so he doesn’t cum in my mouth. But if he should, I spit and brush my teeth.”
“I don’t care too much for the taste, but I grin and bear it.”
“I don’t enjoy the flavor of cum. I usually let it drip out of my mouth and give a quick lube job to drive the final pleasure home.”
“The taste is no problem for me. I swallow if I have known the guy for some time. Otherwise, I just have him unload on my breasts.”
O fantezie
“I would love to be surrounded by men, like Cleopatra, being able to have power and get fucked all day without worrying about my reputation. I’d love to see any man’s penis I wanted to, whenever I wanted; and do whatever I wanted with it without dealing with societal bullshit and guilt. I want to be overwhelmed by a man’s fucking abilities to the point of tears, where I lose control and forget everything except what is happening in the moment. Pure pleasure.”
DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND ORGASM? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?
In a new relationship Cancer is likely to feel self-conscious, so she tends to close her eyes during much of the sexual experience. Over time, both watching and being watched will prove a turn-on for her.
“More than watching, I listen. I love hearing moans of pleasure. It makes me feel like I am doing it right and he likes it. I don’t mind being watched if the mood is right. Other times I feel pressured.”
“I love watching his eyes get glossy when he is about to cum.”
“I think mirrors are important in sex. Watching heightens my pleasure.”
The Big “O”
HOW DO YOU REACH ORGASM AND HOW OFTEN?
After being very turned on by her partner fondling her breasts, Cancer reaches orgasm almost every time she has sex with a combination of masturbation and intercourse.
“I reach orgasm usually through good fore-play completed by intercourse. I cum most often when I am on top.”
“I cum almost all the time with oral sex, always with masturbation, but almost never with just intercourse …”
O fantezie
“I encounter a stranger who is very well endowed. He grabs me and forces me on my knees to suck him. I do. Right as he is about to cum he makes me stop. He then tells me to lie down and [he] gets between my thighs. He teases me, licking every part of me except my clit. Finally he slowly licks it and then sticks a finger in me. He brings me close to orgasm many times but then backs off. Then he sucks on my clit slowly, nipping it with his teeth until I cum. While I am cumming he is still sucking, sending me into multiple orgasms.
CARE ESTE POZIȚIA TA PREFERATĂ?
Top, bottom, side by side, or spooning, all are pleasurable to the Cancer woman. She has absolutely no exclusive favorite position.
“I can reach orgasm just by lots of foreplay, especially [on] my nipples.”
“For me it doesn’t matter. It depends on how much foreplay and how deep he is in me.”
“My husband on his side, facing me, me on my back, legs intertwined.”
“I like doggie style because I can tickle my clit at the same time.”
SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING AN ORGASM THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH ORGASM TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?
Ms. Cancer loves the intensity of achieving orgasm simultaneously with her partner, but if this is not possible, she is content as long as they both climax.
“I am not concerned about who cums first as long as we both have orgasms.”
“It’s nice to climax together, but either way the job will get done.”
“The ultimate is reaching it together; however, sometimes this doesn’t happen and it doesn’t really matter.”
SUNTEȚI VOCAL ÎN TIMPUL SEXULUI?
The sounds that Cancer makes during sex are mostly low moans and soft whispers.
“My husband is very vocal. I am not but try to be because I know it turns him on.”
“I am quite vocal. I like my partner to know that I enjoy what he is doing.”
O fantezie
“I am by nature dominant, yet when I fantasize I am almost always submissive—often being humiliated by a dom who verbally humiliates me, then farms me out to his male friends to make sure that I know I am his slut to be used any way he wishes.”
DUPĂ SEX CE VĂ PLACE SĂ FACEȚI?
After sex most often Cancer prefers to stay in, to cuddle, and to relax together. About the only thing she enjoys doing beyond sleeping is sharing food.
“After sex I enjoy cuddling, talking, and watching a movie.”
“I love it when we cuddle and fall asleep holding each other.”