First Date with an Aries Man

It doesn’t matter if he is the most stunning guy you’ve ever met. If you don’t match, you don’t match. You may be able to put on a show for a while in order to hold on to his attention, but what’s the point? We cannot please everybody. We all have different needs, dreams, tastes and preferences. There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all lover. Be yourself, and be true to who you are – always!

Catch his eye, capture his attention

Top 10 attention grabbers:

1. Be cheerful and sparkling.

2. Pay attention to your looks. Emphasise your feminine – and sassy – sides.

3. Signal your interest, but don’t be obvious.

4. Don’t be afraid to show him your independent side.

5. Take the initiative, but without coming on too strong. He is good at picking up hints.

6. Be playful and adventurous – the one in the crowd who’s up for trying out that new drink, meal, activity, etc.

7. Be confident.

8. Be hot, but be cool about it.

9. Admire and respect his masculinity, but give a little resistance.

10. Show interest in his experiences and topics of conversation.

His dream date. The SHE.

The woman! An Homem de Áries can be pretty flexible when it comes to picking a playmate for the night. On the other hand, choosing a romantic partner requires thorough attention. He expects her to be just as impulsive and enthusiastic as he is. He prefers a sporty and active woman, but she won’t get far with him unless she’s also classy, sassy and feminine. She must be someone he can be proud of, both in terms of looks and personality. He will lose interest if she doesn’t live up to his expectations. Although he enjoys independent women, she must never challenge his masculinity.

The basics:

Whatever you are, be real. The Áries man doesn’t fall for the innocent-little-girl vibe. There’s a difference between being a little shy and pretending to be coy – and it’s the pretending he doesn’t like.

Ease into it.

It’s easy to relax in his company. He will take the initiative, and then it’s up to you to tag along. It’s like adding wood to a fire – you just have to stoke it to make sure it keeps burning.

Inspire. Introducing him to something new is a good way to pique his interest. Show him your fun, feminine and independent sides. Let him know you’re not afraid to stand on your own two feet.

Cherish the masculinity. Tell him about your ideas and ask for his opinion. This is a subtle way to appeal to his masculinity.

Keep it smart and simple. If you spark his creativity and impulsiveness, the two of you may end up in all sorts of unusual places, so dress accordingly.

Very important:

Pay attention to what you say. If you manage to make him think and inspire him, you will ignite a spark in his eyes. Focus on unusual topics. Surf the net before you meet him, and gather stories with an edge.

Whatever you do…

• Don’t flirt with other men when he’s around.

• Don’t criticise his energy. • Don’t bluff, overreach for compliments or tell him white lies.

• Don’t be loud or vulgar.

• Don’t put on a show or pretend to be someone you’re not.

• Don’t play hard to get and leave him wondering what’s going on.

• Don’t be too secretive about yourself.

• Don’t tease him in bed.

• Don’t be bossy or question his masculinity.

• Don’t drape yourself in a negative attitude.

Signs you’re in – or not!

If you’re in, you’ll know. If you’ve managed to capture his interest, he won’t waste time. Getting to know you will be his first priority. He will call or text you – or both. He won’t be making suggestions for next week. Prepare yourself for a ‘later today’ or ‘tomorrow around lunch’. You’ll continue scoring points with this guy if you can keep up with him and show the same level of enthusiasm. For him, life is an adventure – and it’s for living. It can be quite refreshing when a guy says: I really like you. I want to see you now! If you’re not sure, or you think you may have misinterpreted something, a few signals will indicate that you’ve made a strong impression:

Chances are he will…

• call or text you soon after you’ve said goodbye

• ask for your opinion

• put projects aside to be with you

• include you in his ideas

• be protective of you and bark at men who give you the eye

• be very focused on you and unusually romantic

Remember, If you respond to his invitations with vague answers about needing to check you’re diary, he’ll be gone before you know it. The initial stages are important, but don’t think too much. If it’s not working out, Mr Aries will probably be the first to dash off.

Not your type? Making an exit…

If the two of you don’t hit it off right away, he’ll probably notice before you do. His social antennas are strong – especially when it comes to women. While keeping the conversation going and entertaining you with stories, he’s simultaneously reading your body language and picking up on subtle cues. If you’re not into him, he’ll know. He moves on quickly and can even be a little blunt about it. Life is to be lived, not wasted. If you can’t provide him with the excitement and adventures he’s looking for, he’ll hit the road. However, if you have dazzled him with your charm, beauty and knowledge, he may continue trying to win you over. This is when you’ll need to put your foot down. Sure, you could just leave, but things will go more smoothly if you help him decide for himself.

Foolproof exit measures:

These suggestions may seem a little drastic, and they may show you in a bad light – but if you really need an exit, these will get you there:

• Start talking about a new savings account you’ve set up that allows for no flexibility or extra spending. From now on, every little thing needs to be planned

• Tell him you find no-sex relações fascinating

• Start giving him ‘helpful’ hints about everything: how to hold his glass or cutlery, the colours he’s wearing, etc.

• Talk about your day in detail, including boring titbits about people he doesn’t know

• Give the impression that you know very little about anything, and yawn when he tries to enlighten you

• Get giggly and silly at dinner, even if you’ve only had a soda