Donna Gemelli - Astrologia sessuale

In her own words…

A Memory

“We met on the Internet, got close through email and extensive telephone conversations. When we met, that first touch was electric. We sat on the couch kissing. I placed my hand inside his shirt. The feel of the hair on his chest against my palm nearly drove me over the edge. The lighting was low. I could smell his cologne, Escape for Men. There was a blue moon shining through the blinds, adding a touch of the ethereal to the atmosphere. A fantastic night.”

Attraction and Dating a Gemini

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO SOMEONE?

Looks and physical fitness matter to her. Beyond that, the Gemini woman is attracted by a man’s intellect. To keep her involved, a man must be intense about his work and curious about the world around him.

“A man’s energy and ability to communicate, a fit physique, a man with a full head of hair, appealing features, little body hair, and a person who is good at dirty, sexy talk.”

“Laughter, sincerity, witty conversation with innuendo, fun-loving, provocative and with a mischievous smile, good imagination, trim, fit, and vigorous …”

WHAT MIGHT PUT YOU OFF?

She is turned off by a man who is cocky, boring, unkempt, immature, or self-absorbed. She is prone to health problems involving the lungs, so smoking is a deterrent to a relationship with her.

“I’m turned off by men talking about other lovers, blowing in my ear, biting my ear.”

“Slow thinking, ignorant behaviors.”

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING ON A DATE?

Beyond wining and dining, she loves doing things that stimulate her mind such as attending lectures, poetry readings, and going to the theater. She is curious about a broad spectrum of activities and, above all else, she wants time to talk.

“Laughing—lots of it—music, dancing, touching, and socializing …”

“Seeing a play, going to the aquarium, zoo, playing board games …”

“Quiet dinner in a restaurant, then finding a place outdoors to sit and talk and get to know each other …”

A Fantasy

“I imagine that I’m a dancer in a strip club. I get approached by two very sexy guys who lead me into a dark, secluded room. They force me to have rough, hard sex with both of them at the same time. When one guy finishes, a new guy takes his place from the bar. As I am blindfolded, I have no idea who the other guys are.”

ARE YOU FLIRTATIOUS?

Absolutely! Gemini has a positive knack for paying attention to a man, making him feel as though he is the most important person in the world to her. And she does this with everyone, old and young. In fact, she does this with women as well. It is her way of courting the attention of people.

“I love to be flirtatious, a little more than friendly occasionally.”

“With that select someone whose mind attracts me as much as the rest of him.”

“Wicked …”

ARE YOU JEALOUS?

Dual Gemini is of two minds on the question of jealousy. One Gemini will say, “No.” The next one will say, “Unfortunately, yes. Very.” Be assured, a man who comes on to another woman in Gemini’s presence will regret his behavior later. She may not terminate a relationship because of this transgression, but she will use her considerable creativity to make him sorry he was so ill-mannered.

A Memory

“I was getting ready to go out. My boyfriend was watching me brush my teeth. Next thing I knew he was behind me, hugging me. He started kissing my neck and rubbing his hardening penis against my body. I could taste the toothpaste and smell his cologne. I remember reaching behind me and touching his hard cock. My skirt went up; his pants went down as I was still watching in the mirror. He began making love to me in the bathroom. We tried to go to the bedroom, but we never made it. We finished in the living room and it was wonderful.”

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION?

Public displays are fine. She is accepting of them from others, and participates in them herself. However, Gemini doesn’t want her lover hanging on to her too closely because she is such a flirt.

“I’m crazy about them. I think couples should be open about how they feel about each other. There isn’t enough hand-holding and kissing.”

“I don’t think about who’s watching. I just enjoy the way that I’m feeling.”

“I think it’s wonderful to see couples in love, holding hands, looking into each other’s eyes, small kisses. But making out in public is not classy.”

Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors

HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX?

Gemini thinks about sex daily. On average, she enjoys sex three or four times per week.

A Memory

“A quickie in the attic at his work. Hot and humid. Sweat dripping and running. The only furniture was a single metal folding chair that we used every way: him sitting, me straddling, me standing with one foot on the chair or bent over it. We were trying not to make too much noise, and that only made our lust hotter and more fervent. I had a squirt bottle full of ice-cold water that we sprayed on our overheated bodies. We used my sundress as a towel and off I went.”

HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY?

She prefers long sex sessions, at least 45 minutes, including a lot of foreplay. Because Gemini loves variety she wants to include several different sexual behaviors, including oral stimulation and intercourse, in a variety of positions.

“Quickies are great sometimes—they take care of business—but I prefer hours of multiple orgasms.”

“Sex might go from ten minutes to whatever, with one minute to hours of foreplay. And yes, I like quickies as well.”

WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?

As the Sign of experimentation, Gemini will welcome sexual activity at any time of day or night, but she does have some preference for late night.

HOW OFTEN DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?

Gemini doesn’t pleasure herself frequently, doing it virtually not at all or at most a couple of times weekly.

A Memory

“There were candles all over the room, sweet flowerlike smells, perfume, cologne, and slow romantic music playing. We read love letters to each other, gave full-body massages with oils and cream, [fed] each other fruit and chocolate, [licked] and [sucked] flavored oils off each other. We kissed for a long period, foreplay, sixty-nine position, oral sex, different sex positions, several orgasms, [and] ending with going to sleep in each other’s arms.”

HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?

Communication is of major importance to Gemini. Before becoming sexually involved she wants to know something about what’s important to a man, what they have in common. It won’t take her long to figure this out and she has no set rule before allowing a relationship to become physical.

“Varies with the nature of the relationship, but not on the first date …”

“If I have gone out with a man three times that means I think he’s a keeper, and if those feelings are reciprocated, then we are likely to become sexual.”

A Memory

“I was working as a manager for a convenience store and I had to close the store by myself this particular night. There was a younger male who frequented the store and I found him very sexy and hot. I openly flirted with him every time he came in. As I was closing the store, I saw that he was parked outside, leaning against his truck. My heart skipped a beat. I walked over to him and we talked for a while. Then he started kissing me. He opened his truck door, [laid] me across the front seat, reached under my dress, and took off my panties. He proceeded to drive me wild with his tongue and hands, and then gave it to me rough and hard. All the way home, alone in my car, I could smell his cologne all over me. I have to admit part of the thrill was realizing that we might get caught being in the parking lot.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?

This experimental woman is likely to have gone through a period of having casual sex, but this behavior isn’t likely to satisfy her for more than a very short period.

“I think it is unsafe, though I admit it’s exciting and honest.”

“All in all, it’s not for me. It works for others and that is fine.”

“I’ve done it. I’m over it. It’s okay for a while.”

“It’s fine as long as protection is used and both parties involved are not in serious, committed relationships.”

DO YOU BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY?

Following her experiences with casual sex, she comes to value the qualities of commitment and monogamy. In fact, she won’t tolerate betrayal from a partner and, if he strays, she will retaliate in kind.

“Yes. I think there is the greatest potential for openness, experimentation, growth, and fulfilling sexual relationships in a monogamous relationship.”

“Yes; however, if a relationship does not give you everything needed, I could see how someone could wander.”

DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?

When Gemini is committed to a lover she finds sex to be greater than just physical pleasure. It has a significance that is decidedly spiritual. It lifts Gemini above the mundane plane.

“It’s a pure giving of oneself to another.” “Sex is the meeting of two souls, bodies, minds, and passions.”

“It’s the most beautiful way of expressing emotion. It is a magical bonding experience.”

“When you have a true connection with someone it changes sex to a spiritual act.”

Memories

“My husband and I went to a resort in the Berkshires. While he was out horseback riding with friends I had my first massage. When he returned to our cabin I was all oiled up and totally ready for action. He just died!”

“One night I came home after a long class. My lover was in bed and half-asleep. I was really turned on and initiated lovemaking, which took him by surprise. He gave in to me and let me direct the entire act. I found his complete submission so erotic.”

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

Add up the fact that she is flirtatious with the fact that she is a gifted conversationalist, and you get a woman who has no difficulty broaching the subject of sex.

“Yes, very much so …”

“Definitely …”

HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?

Gemini is the sign of communication. She is at ease discussing virtually anything, and this includes her sexual preferences.

“I use both. If gentle gestures do not get the point across, then I use words.”

“I have no trouble expressing desires, verbally and physically.”

A Memory

“A romantic evening with the man I love. He came to the door with a single rose. We had dinner at home, candles lit around the house. Music playing, very gentle and sensual. It was magical. I felt that we truly connected and our souls fell in love as we were making love. I guess I am an old-fashioned sort of girl at heart.”

DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?

Gemini loves to experience many of life’s pleasures, in food, in travels, and in her love-making style. In terms of sexual expression, beyond the traditional mainstream range, she will try a broad spectrum of behaviors. These might include anal sex, dominance and submission, sex in public places, spanking, using food, and sampling a variety of sex toys such as cock rings, vibrators, dildos, strap-ons, anal beads, sex shop lotions, body paint, sex games, edible undies, French ticklers, and flavored condoms. Most of the time, however, she prefers to remain within the mainstream of sexuality: kissing, fondling, oral sex, and intercourse.

“I think of myself as kind of mainstream, but open to fun with toys and other things.”

“I am very open. Life is good and kinky.”

Of her fantasies she says, “They venture into avenues that I could never see myself acting out. I love prison and rape fantasies. I have zero control of the situation. Bound and held with no sign of relief. Also, I enjoy orgasm denial and control.”

A Fantasy

“Seeing someone I know that I always wanted, or even someone I don’t know, [and] feeling raw amazing attraction. Without saying anything we look at each other, start to touch, kiss, squeeze, suck, undress each other, then move on to foreplay, intercourse, and multiple orgasms.”

HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?

Gemini, as an Air Sign, a Sign of communication, demonstrates her feelings for her partner verbally. She is apt to leave him love notes in his briefcase or tucked in a pant pocket or to send cards and emails. She is also an excellent listener.

“Love notes, email notes, sweet cards, computer cards, gifts for occasions, and randomly long intimate talks, praise, and compliments.”

“Lots of hugs and snuggling and making sure to say, ‘I love you.’”

“Buying special gifts, sending cards, making special meals, and leaving notes around the house.”

Fantasies

“I fantasize about a particular guy, going to his apartment and putting him against the wall, disrobing him, running my mouth all over him, and sucking on him until his breathing is fast and he can’t stand not to be inside me. I imagine the look on his face, the taste of his skin, the touch of his hands, the closeness.”

“I fantasize having sex with two men, vaginal and anal sex simultaneously.”

The Five Senses

HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?

Gemini appreciates being in a place that enhances sex, a clean place with soft lights, candles, and fragrant air. Given her nervous disposition, messiness and noise could be distracting.

“I feel depressed if my surroundings are not in order.”

“Cleanliness, lighting, and decor are all important to me.”

“Must be clean and if outside, secluded.”

A Memory

“My mate and I had just purchased a minivan. As we pulled into our driveway, we were listening to seductive music and began fondling each other. We became very aroused, started shedding our clothes, and moved to the back of the van, where we made passionate love for hours in every imaginable position with no thought of anyone but each other.”

WHERE DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX?

For sex on a regular basis, Gemini wants to be comfortable in her bed, but this is the Sign of variety as well as the Sign that rules automobiles. Add those traits and making love in a car—as well as in other out of the ordinary locations, especially on the spur of the moment—taking advantage of a dark and secluded area is a turn-on.

“The more different the place is, the better the sex.”

“Outdoors in a secluded place …”

“Anywhere, but [in] bed is my favorite, simply because it is more comfortable.”

WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?

Gemini is the sign that rules hearing; therefore, sound is a turn-on for her. Natural sounds, like the lapping of ocean waves and rain, as well as listening to music and the sounds of other people making love, all excite her.

“I am turned on by erotic romance novels, by poetry, seeing my lover’s nude body, the smell of his skin, romantic settings, and by the sound of my lover whispering.”

“Hip-hop and slow music, candles, warmth, love showers, erotic/adult movies, massaging, dirty talk.”

“Sensual music, good food/wine, acts of kindness, herbal candles, massage, passionate kissing …”

A Fantasy

“I imagine a tall man, medium-length hair, a two-day growth of beard, lean build, and a firm round ass. He’s dressed like one of the Three Musketeers: velvet jacket, fitted pants that lace together, and knee-high leather boots. I have been hot for him for some time, but he is forbidden. It is nearing dusk. He’s standing in the shadows of a doorway and as I walk past, he grabs my wrist, covers my mouth, and pulls me forcefully into the barn. He drags me over to a stall full of grain and wrestles me down onto it. He restrains my hands with a bit of rope, saying he knows I want it. Then he takes me roughly and with little fanfare.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?

Gemini is an intellectual sign and so both the auditory and visual stimulus of adult videos excite her on several levels. Whether or not she wants to try them out, since her range of sexuality is usually mainstream, watching a variety of sexual behaviors triggers her fantasies and turns her on.

“I find mild adult videos enticing. It can be fun to watch if it’s tastefully done. You’re always safe with erotica.”

“I like it—helps build arousal and excitement, gives the imagination a boost.”

“I think it can enhance a sex life.”

HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?

Cuddling is fine at the right time and place but she doesn’t want to feel confined. Out in public she wants to be free to flirt with anyone, anytime— but harmlessly, just being friendly. A partner who stays too close, who appears possessive, will annoy her.

“I am a very affectionate person, and like the same in return. I love giving and receiving massages.”

“I love hugging and being close, but resent it when a partner always turns it into sex.”

HOW TACTILE AND HOW ORAL ARE YOU?

The Sign of Gemini rules the shoulders, arms, and hands. Gemini is also the Sign of experimentation. As a result, lovemaking that satisfies her includes equal amounts of kissing, touching, fondling, oral sex, and intercourse.

“The only way to get to know every inch of my lover is by touching.”

“I enjoy deep kissing. Oral sex is one of my favorite acts as long as my partner is clean.”

“I love kissing. That first kiss is always a turn-on. Oral sex, I love giving, but I am not so good at sitting still for receiving.”

A Memory

“A massage, some laughing and talking, kissing, and cuddling. Then oral sex, his fingers inside me to feel the orgasm, intercourse, and then feeling like I am cherished. Talking long into the night, forgetting sleep, and going out for breakfast. Coming home, sleeping into the afternoon, sharing a newspaper and some coffee, listening to music, and enjoying us.”

WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?

She likes most everything, especially if there is variety in her lover’s approach. She may not be interested in S&M, but bondage can be a lot of fun. She’ll try anal sex, but in most cases, it doesn’t interest Gemini.

“Hmmm … can’t think of one I don’t like.”

“The only sex act not on my list is anal sex. I tried it and didn’t like it.”

AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?

As a lover, Gemini is proud of all her abilities to please her lover, from the use of her tongue to the way she handles his penis, from being seductive to the variety she brings to the sexual experience.

“My oral abilities, I have no gag reflex.”

“Hands, tongue, body—I’m flexible—tight, noises, moaning.”

“Vocalizing my needs and pleasure, providing encouragement …”

“The intensity that I put into pleasing my partner; I am told I am fantastic at giving blow jobs, too.”

A Memory

“In a luxurious hotel, king-size bed, whirlpool tub, aromatherapy (sandalwood, jasmine) candles, scented rubbing oils. An entire evening of enjoying my lover’s body and him enjoying mine with no distractions: just the two of us pleasing each other to the fullest.”

WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?

Gemini is the sign of experimentation. When it comes to the senses of smell and taste she likes it all; colognes and sweat, clean or a bit salty. Food isn’t a big part of her repertoire, but sliding around on a plastic sheet slathered with baby oil can be fun.

“My partner’s skin and cologne and even his sweat as long as he’s clean.”

“His fresh sweat, skin, and cum …”

“Strawberry lotion on his body …”

FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?

The taste of cum isn’t a problem for Gemini and she loves oral sex. Nevertheless, most of the time she prefers her lover to climax on her body or during intercourse rather than in her mouth.

“The taste isn’t that bad, but I rarely swallow cum. Sometimes I rub it on my breasts.”

“I keep a glass of soda beside the bed [so I can] take a drink afterward to get rid of the taste.”

“I swallow and rub, lick. It doesn’t matter.”

“I like him to cum on me.”

DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND ORGASM? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?

Gemini is curious about everything, so she always enjoys watching her partner during sex and orgasm. But, maybe because she has a nervous disposition, she has mixed feelings about being watched.

“Sometimes I love having him watch me, sometimes I hate it. It depends on how I am feeling about myself.”

A Fantasy

“We are sitting on the couch, begin deep kissing and rubbing each other through our clothes. We are getting very hot and start pulling at each other’s shirts but take it painfully slowly. I sit on my partner’s lap, facing him, and start to fondle him under his shirt. He does the same to me. We head for the bedroom, on our way groping each other. On the bed I start kissing him all over and playfully take out two scarves. I tease him with the silky fabric. He ties my hands to the bedposts and tells me not to move. Kissing my body all over, he is making me wild and wet. He spreads my legs apart and begins to move his tongue toward the direction of my clitoris, teasing me all the while until I can’t take it any longer. He thrusts his tongue inside me and I have a violent orgasm. After getting my breath back I start to caress my lover’s back, butt, and legs and then, ever so slowly, his penis. Then he slides his rockhard penis inside me and we both orgasm together.”

The Big “O”

HOW DO YOU REACH AN ORGASM AND HOW OFTEN?

Gemini has no trouble reaching orgasm and usually cums every time she has sex. A combination of oral sex, finger manipulation of her clitoris, and intercourse will bring her to orgasm.

“I achieve orgasm by masturbation and oral sex every time. By intercourse, hardly ever …”

“I climax every time with masturbation; sometimes with intercourse.”

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE POSITION?

She enjoys many positions for intercourse but when it comes to climaxing, doggie style is Gemini’s favorite because it allows for finger manipulation of her clitoris.

Fantasies

“Mine are very simple: being met at the door, slowly undressed, tied up, teased, and finished off with intercourse.”

“My fantasy is to have sex in a tub of chocolate, extra sticky.”

SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING AN ORGASM THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH ORGASM TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?

The Gemini woman loves to climax with her partner. If not, it’s preferable for her to cum first—especially because she loves making love in the doggie position. It’s the easiest position for her to achieve orgasm.

“Do me first and I will do you.”

“I usually reach orgasm first, then my partner, since most men do not last too long after they have an orgasm.”

A Memory

“I went over to my lover’s house. Without even shutting the door, he grabbed me and deep-kissed me. Vanilla-scented candles were burning and the lights were dim. For the next hour he did everything to pleasure me both orally and touching me gently all over my body. We then took turns orally exciting each other and trying various positions for intercourse. After we reached orgasm he lay next to me and caressed me softly.”

ARE YOU VOCAL DURING SEX?

Gemini is a verbal sign and is highly vocal during sex. In fact, some talking during the sex act heightens her pleasure.

“I am very loud.”

“I am very vocal, loud. I make a lot of noises.”

“Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot; depends on my mood.”

A Memory

“I have many wonderful memories. Surprisingly, several of them involve observing sex rather than participating in it. I have been invited to watch men please themselves and to observe other couples having intercourse. To me, voyeurism is much hotter than watching adult videos.”

AFTER SEX WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO?

She wants to get up, have some dinner, or perhaps listen to some music. Sex tends to invigorate her rather than prepare her for sleep.

“Afterward I like to kiss passionately, be massaged, share food, have dinner cooked for me, laugh together.”

“Talk, listen to music, snuggle, then sleep together.”