Femme Bélier - Astrologie sexuelle

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Une mémoire

“Out on a boat, drifting in the sun. Lying naked on the deck. Rubbing oils on each other. The rocking motion. Occasional splash of a fish. The cry of seagulls. Smell of sweat and suntan oil. His cigar smoke. Me tasting of Zima and him of beer, all mixing when we kiss. Sitting on his lap, moving up and down with the motion of the boat, and him inside me. Moving faster and faster. Him thrusting harder and harder until I explode in an incredible intense excitement.”

Attraction and Dating an Aries

QU'EST-CE QUI VOUS ATTIRE CHEZ QUELQU'UN ?

The Aries woman always responds to a man’s energy. Vitality goes a long way to compensate if a man isn’t really her type physically.

“I am attracted by energy, personality, humor. Physical attributes aren’t extremely important. Personality and pleasant disposition and behavior outweigh looks.”

“A man’s smile, energy, behavior, plus the ability to dance … Height matters as I want a man who’s a bit taller than I am and I don’t want him to be fat. Penis size never really counts. I want to know if he can snuggle and whether he likes himself.”

“Confidence is the biggest turn-on though not to the point of arrogance … intelligence, sense of humor, sensitivity, karma, chemistry.”

Une mémoire

“He was a very attractive, romantic man. His body was lean and clean. He brought flowers and wine and we lingered over a delicious seafood dinner. Then we began making out, taking our time. He talked dirty, adding to the excitement. I remember us lying there with the sun streaming in through the windows, warm on our bodies.”

QU'EST-CE QUI POURRAIT VOUS REBUTER ?

As Aries is the sign that rules the head and loves to kiss, poor dental hygiene is her number one turnoff. A lack of a sense of humor comes next.

“A man who is ultra-reserved has poor manners, or is too quiet. I want to have a good time.”

“I am definitely turned off by a man who talks about other lovers, has low self-confidence, and is insensitive.”

“Poor style, bad teeth, inconsiderate behavior.”

QU'AIMEZ-VOUS FAIRE LORS D'UN RENDEZ-VOUS GALANT ?

Aries women, in addition to listing the traditional things to do on an evening out, include sex as a dating activity. Regardless of her willingness, however, she’ll be completely turned off if she feels she’s being hurried into bed. A smart man will watch for Aries to signal her availability before suggesting sex too soon after supper.

“Dining out at a great restaurant, casual stuff, movie, antique hunting, dog shows, passionate kissing, holding hands, touching, sex of course, first date, always.”

“Dancing, talking about anything, holding hands, touching, passionate kissing.”

Une fantaisie

“Making love outdoors, on a warm sunny afternoon, in a country setting. It starts with my lover and me slowly undressing and then massaging each other. It ends with us lying spent and naked on a blanket with warm sun on our bodies and the scent of plants and wildflowers in the air.”

ÊTES-VOUS FLIRTEUR ?

Flirtatiousness is not an innate Aries trait. She has an ingenuous quality and an open, frank way of interacting with people which can be disarming. It’s the rare Aries who is truly a flirt.

“Maybe in a lighthearted way: trading jokes or banter.”

“Somewhat, but I’d be more so if I had more confidence in myself.”

“Perhaps, subtly flirtatious with strangers, moderately with men I know better.”

ÊTES-VOUS JALOUX ?

Yes she is. How much so may vary, but Aries being the first Sign of the zodiac, the Sign whose keywords are “I am,” certainly expects to be the center of attention with her lover.

“If I am with someone who is talking about other lovers, I get jealous.”

“Not in casual relationships, but when I really like someone I can be possessive.”

“I can be, because I am a loyal friend and want others to be the same.”

Une mémoire

“It was a warm and breezy February day and no one else was around. We were hiking at Race Point in Provincetown and had walked for about an hour, talking about philosophy. We came upon a little offshoot of a path. The afternoon sun made the trees a sort of golden color. It was magical looking and we thought somehow that it was all meant only for us. I truly felt that I was with my soul mate. We held each other for quite a while and let nature take its course. I remember looking at him [and] thinking that his eyes were the same color as the sky.”

QUE PENSEZ-VOUS DES DÉMONSTRATIONS PUBLIQUES D'AFFECTION ?

Aries wants displays of affection kept to a minimum. Showing regard by holding hands pleases her, but anything that seems to be sexual should be done in private.

“I enjoy letting the world know that I’m in love subtly. I’m not into intercourse in public.”

“Lots of hand-holding, even an occasional provocative kiss—that’s fine in front of others.”

“Nothing sexual: discreet holding hands, that’s okay. Deep kissing is not.”

“Fine as long as they aren’t mauling each other … I love seeing happy couples. It certainly beats looking at people fighting or walking around with long faces.”

Attitudes et comportements sexuels

HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX?

Aries is a highly sexual woman. She thinks about sex at least once a day and Aries wants sex at least three times a week.

Une mémoire

“I was falling asleep. My lover [lay] down, spooned me, and began gently kissing and sucking on my neck while stroking my breasts. His touch and lips felt warm, soft, and loving. When I was writhing with desire he pulled me on top of him. We had intercourse while kissing deeply and holding hands. [We] reached intense excitement together. The low moans he made just before he reached intense excitement were intensely exciting to me. We fell asleep, spooned.”

HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY? DO YOU ENJOY QUICKIES?

She prefers spending about an hour having sex with twenty to thirty minutes of foreplay, but she won’t reject quick encounters. If she’s had a stressful day or if she’s distracted, some passionate kissing and a quickie will prove very satisfying. A night of great sex might begin with a short, passionate encounter and climax, followed by cuddling, kissing, and a slower second round.

“Time depends on my mood, the complexities of the day. Sometimes I like it to last, with foreplay for about an hour. At other times I prefer no foreplay at all and a quickie is perfect.”

“I like to forget the time when having sex. I wouldn’t say no to a quickie, but I prefer an open expanse of time.”

“Quickies are okay once in a while, but I prefer taking my time.”

“I prefer extended lovemaking, [but] an occasional quickie can be very exciting.”

“I like a lot of foreplay. Teasing and pleasing someone enhances the actual act.”

“On foreplay, as much as needed to build us both up to the point where we have to have [sex].”

WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?

Sex at any time of day is fine with her though she has some preference for early morning and late night.

“I prefer sex in the dark, whether at night or before dawn breaks.”

“My favorite times are mornings, just before getting out of bed, and at night in the dark.”

“I like all different times, especially night and first thing in the morning as long as there’s enough time.”

Mémoires

“Being awakened by my partner, who is really horny early in the morning.”

“Sex on the hood of my car in a private parking lot, with people watching.”

“The moon was out, very dark sky; you could smell the dew on the ground. There was a chill in the air. It was very aggressive.”

“In my bed … he caressed me all over until I was so turned on, so wet with desire, that his penis slid right in and I felt transported to another world.”

“I got into a sexy bra, garter belt, and stockings and we had sex on the kitchen table.”

HOW OFTEN DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?

She pleases herself two to four times weekly, depending on whether she is unattached or seeing someone.

“I play with myself more, maybe four times weekly, if I am not in a relationship in which I regularly have sex.”

HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?

She has no set time or number of dates, days, or weeks before becoming sexual, but it’s not likely to be a long time. Having sex on a first date isn’t unheard of as long as she hasn’t felt pressured by her partner.

“I don’t like rules. Time isn’t important, chemistry is. If you feel like sleeping with someone right away, go for it. Trust your instincts.”

“One day plus … it depends on the person.”

“Maybe two dates, although sometimes it’s been a shorter period.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?

Aries is generally pretty good at distinguishing lust from love, making her quite comfortable with casual sex as long as it’s practiced safely.

“When I’m not in a relationship, I don’t see anything wrong with casual sex.”

“It is fine if precautions are taken.”

“It’s okay as long as both people are on the same page and don’t confuse it with a committed or lasting relationship.”

Fantasmes

“I am a hopeless romantic. My fantasy is being made love to in the shower, ocean, hot tub, in the snow, in front of the fireplace.”

“I think of my husband’s hard body.”

“Start with neck, go on to breast, [and] then go down.”

“For me to have the ultimate perfect body and to be desired and to have intercourse and multiple intense excitements with the sexiest man who happen[s] to be my soul mate.”

CROYEZ-VOUS EN LA MONOGAMIE ?

For her monogamy is not about sex; it’s about commitment and bonding. In essence, she believes in serial monogamy, one lover at a time for as long as it works.

“I hope for monogamy, but I know some people aren’t suited to it. I’ve never been faithful. Sometimes the moment overtakes you.”

“I’m faithful when in a relationship for as long as it lasts. I don’t believe we mate for life, but that each relationship is a learning and growing experience. Some short, some long … no pun intended.”

“I do believe in it, but I haven’t been faithful yet.”

“I don’t think monogamy works for many people. There is too much pressure on each to satisfy all of the other’s desires.”

DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?

While she may feel comfortable having sex outside an otherwise bonded relationship, sex isn’t merely physical. She is quite private about her concept of spirituality and an element of that is high that sex brings.

“Sex allows me to feel that I can mingle my spirit with another’s—that we can exchange breath—especially if I feel I am with a soul mate whose pleasure/passion is every bit as strong as my own.”

“Yes, in the sense that love is spiritual and sex is a wonderful expression of love.”

“There is nothing like it. Sex takes me to another plane of experience.”

“Sex is the physical manifestation of love, God’s gift.”

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

Aries has a take-charge nature. She is usually the one to initiate sex.

“Definitely … I like being the one in control.”

Une mémoire

“My most wonderful encounter was made extraordinary by the circumstances. I was in love with one of my best friends, and it was unrequited for years. But we became emotionally intimate over time and crossed some boundaries—sleeping in the same bed, touching, caressing, partial nudity—but had never kissed or made love. One very hot night we were sleeping in his single bed. It was raining, thunder and lightning. The window was open. We were in our underwear, caressing each other and he was lying on top of me. The room was dark except for the lightning. I asked him to kiss me; he said no. But then in another moment he did and I felt like the room exploded. A huge bolt of lightning came down at that moment and I couldn’t stop shaking. I think about that moment a lot. He’s the only actual man I fantasize about and it is always in that bed.”

HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?

Aries is a Fire Sign, the Sign of action. When it comes to communicating about sex, especially in bed, she prefers body language to words, but she welcomes having her partner tell her what he does and doesn’t like.

“I guide him and respond to what he does that pleases me.”

“I use both [body language and words], but mostly through gestures until I am very comfortable with a partner.”

DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?

Her range of sexuality goes from the mainstream to experimental, from intercourse and oral sex to using food, ice cubes, and hot wax. She might accept an occasional spanking, use a leather or latex accessory, or wear a blindfold or high-heeled boots to add excitement. She might also put on a costume, use a vibrator, and try light bondage. Forget the chains, paddles, and electricity. She’ll be turned off by the unusual behaviors these items suggest.

“I’d say I am experimental though not extreme. I am into spanking but not genital torture, piercing, et cetera.”

“I consider myself mainstream, though with the right person I could become quite experimental.”

Her fantasies extend beyond the mainstream.

Une fantaisie

“I like to imagine my man sitting with me standing in front of him, telling me which articles of clothing to take off and how slowly. Then he tells me what positions he wants me in. Sometimes he ties me up, blindfold[s] me, and uses whipped cream, ice cubes, hot wax, and [then] finally has intercourse with me.”

HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?

Aries loves to feel that she’s helping her partner, and she strives to be considerate. It is important to her to be noticed and to be told that her efforts are appreciated.

“Cooking, listening, understanding a different point of view, I like taking care of my partner … making sure that he is remembered on special occasions.”

“I help him accomplish personal goals, and send him chocolate kisses, special notes and cards.”

“I strive to be thoughtful, make his breakfast in the morning, [run] his bath after work, give him a rubdown and kiss him all over.”

Fantasmes

“My partner is kissing me, beginning at my forehead and working his way down to my inner thighs, staying there, teasing me, without touching my vagina until I can’t take it anymore. Finally, he thrusts inside me and brings me to intense excitement.”

“Having my legs massaged and admired, kissed; oral sex performed on me and the intercourse lasting for a long time—until I am satisfied.”

“I have fantasies in which I am forced to have sex in unusual positions and with more than one male partner.”

Les cinq sens

HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?

As Aries rules the head, aromas are a stimulant for her. Cleanliness matters. The smell of clean sheets is probably the most important element in the environment for sex.

“Cleanliness is extremely important. The rest doesn’t matter at all.”

“[Personal] cleanliness is most important. I don’t care whether the place is messy.”

“A modicum of privacy and cleanliness is important.”

OÙ AIMEZ-VOUS FAIRE L'AMOUR ?

Privacy matters. Smells of grass, trees, flowers, the lapping of waves on the beach might be turn-ons, but not if anyone else is remotely nearby. Her favorite place for sex is the bedroom.

“Outdoors, but in a deserted area or situation …”

“The car or the beach is fine, never really in a public place.”

“Outside is fun—in a pool, Jacuzzi, even on the roof.”

Une fantaisie

“He picks me up in a limo and brings me red roses. We have dinner at a lovely restaurant and go dancing. Then we go to his hotel room and he does a striptease for me. The sex is hot and he climaxes inside me, and he tells me he loves me.”

WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?

Two different kinds of behaviors, romantic and highly physical, put Aries in the mood. On the one hand, lavish some attention on her, bring her a flower (it needn’t be a bouquet). A token that shows her lover cares about her is very sexy to Aries. On the more active side, working out, roughhousing, and playing at forcing her to have sex get her very excited.

“Music, candles, eating in bed, French kissing, a small gesture like holding hands, can be very arousing to me. Erotic touching, kissing from toes up or eyes down.”

“Thunderstorms!! Lying in the sun, talking about sex, reading erotica, romantic movies … all put me in the mood.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?

Adult films are either of no interest to her or a turnoff. After all, Aries wants her lover to think she is the best there is. Watching some woman with enhanced breasts performing multiple acts of sex on a video is likely to trigger competitive feelings and undermine her own sex drive.

“Adult films don’t have enough emotions and feelings in it. Perhaps if it included a good love story I’d like it a whole lot more.”

“Mainstream heterosexual adult films do nothing for me. Gay male videos are much more interesting. I think heterosexual videos could be satisfying, but it’s just not done well.”

“I think adult films tend to separate sex from love and even affection and makes it just another spectator sport like football or wrestling. I suppose it enhances sex for some people but that doesn’t redeem it for me.”

HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?

She likes to cuddle but isn’t one to hang on to her lover. She needs her space and respects his. A little hug in public is a pleasure. Cuddling while watching a video at home usually leads to sex.

“I like sitting close and holding hands, walking arm in arm, hips together in rhythm.”

“If I like someone a lot, I want a lot of affection.”

Une fantaisie

“I imagine that he has been away for a while and we are about to meet at a friend’s house. We don’t have a chance to be alone there, but we talk with each other and hold hands. On the drive home we kiss at red lights, like kids, and I stroke his hand or place my hand on his thigh; not too high up, just a suggestion. Without saying anything, he pulls the car over and we begin to kiss, softly at first and then more passionately. He unbuttons my blouse, I help him out of his clothes, and we make love in the front seat.”

DANS QUELLE MESURE ÊTES-VOUS TACTILE ET ORAL ?

Touching is certainly important to her, but Aries is the sign that rules the head. So it is that kissing and oral sex are of great significance to her for the most satisfying sex.

“I love touching and being touched, sometimes feather-light [and] sometimes rough handling with force.”

“I enjoy deep kissing on the mouth, all over my lover’s body and penis.”

WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?

She loves to kiss and be kissed. Nothing tops the pleasure and excitement that kissing stimulates. She loves to give and receive oral sex, and she enjoys intercourse. Anal sex is her least favorite sex act.

“Favorites: kissing, receiving oral sex, intercourse, anal stimulation, though not anal penetration.”

“Kissing, mutual masturbation, fondling breasts, intercourse, oral sex … Never anal …”

“Kissing, oral sex, having my breasts fondled and sucked, intercourse …”

AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?

She wants to please her man as well as prove her skill in bed. Aries is especially proud of her abilities at oral sex.

“Everyone praises my tongue and how I bring them to intense excitement.”

“How I move my body; that I am not easily shamed in bed.”

“How I like to initiate and be in control, also being a flirt.”

Une mémoire

“My partner is verbal about appreciating my body and our compatibility. He makes it a priority to bring me to intense excitementrgasm; in fact, [he] becomes more aroused by my intense excitement. He says sentimental or tender things such as, ‘Do you realize that we met three months ago today?’ He respects and trusts me and is willing to experiment with me and laughs at the word ‘dirty.’”

WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?

Many Aries women love their partners’ colognes. The tastes she finds appealing are natural: skin, mouth, lips, and her lover’s fresh sweat. She enjoys flavored oils and if she likes to mix food with sex, strawberries are her favorite.

“Smells: cologne on his neck, his skin, hair, scalp, and the smell of his scrotum.”

“His cologne just melts me. I like the taste of his cum, his body, his everything.”

“I like the smell of his skin and his breath and the taste of his tongue and the salty taste of his penis just before he cums.”

“Skin, genitals, colognes, his hair …”

Une mémoire

“Music, great wine, dancing, snuggling, taking off each other’s clothes piece by piece, petting, cuddling, laughing, rolling around, massaging each other’s feet, kissing all over. Holding each other in the afterglow until we both fell asleep breathing together as one unit.”

FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?

Some Aries women enjoy their partner’s cum and find tasting it an exciting part of the sexual experience. The Aries who isn’t enthusiastic about the taste will strive to overlook it.

“I love to swallow, lick, rub cum on my stomach and breasts; this excites me.”

“I keep a glass of water handy and take sips of it to dilute the taste.”

DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND INTENSE EXCITEMENT? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?

She “most definitely” loves watching her partner during sex and intense excitement. She is equally comfortable being watched “when I’m with someone I know very well.”

Une mémoire

“We showered together. He surprised me, coming into the bathroom while I was bathing. We washed each other, performed oral sex on each other. The hot water pouring over us and the smell of soap was intoxicating. Continuing out of the shower into the bedroom with intercourse; reaching climax together, still wet from the shower, and sweet-talking afterward.”

The Big “O”

HOW DO YOU REACH INTENSE EXCITEMENT AND HOW OFTEN?

She can generally reach intense excitement with various sex acts, especially those involving oral sex and from any position. Aries is likely to climax every time.

“I reach intense excitement through oral sex, masturbation, and intercourse—but usually only with grinding or direct clitoral stimulation.”

“I intense excitement all the time … with [my] latest partner, multiple times …”

“I cum through oral sex, being fondled, or masturbation …”

QUELLE EST VOTRE POSITION PRÉFÉRÉE ?

Her favorite position for intercourse may be woman on top, man on top, or doggie style, dependent upon her partner’s size. Depth of penetration is what matters to Aries.

“My favorite positions are being on top [and] spooning with clitoral stimulation.”

SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING INTENSE EXCITEMENT THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH INTENSE EXCITEMENT TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?

Aries has the reputation of doing almost everything quickly, and this includes reaching intense excitement. But generally, she is not concerned about whether she achieves intense excitement before, after, or along with her partner.

“It doesn’t matter as long as we’re both satisfied. My boyfriend doesn’t cum every time, but he’s content.”

“I’d like to cum together, but my partner is always later and I don’t worry about it.”

Fantasmes

“The kinkiest things I fantasize about are gay sex or a threesome with me and two men.”

“Five guys and me …”

“Being stroked by a very strong man wearing leather gloves. He takes total control but with respect. I give all of me with wild passion.”

“Sex on an airplane … red-eye and everyone’s asleep. It turns me on to think of this because it’s public but discreet at the same time.”

ÊTES-VOUS VOCAL PENDANT LES RAPPORTS SEXUELS ?

She is vocal during sex, but not necessarily verbal. The Aries woman does express her feelings, sometimes subtly and at others more overtly.

“I purr like a kitten.”

“I am a screamer.”

APRÈS LE SEXE, QU'AIMEZ-VOUS FAIRE ?

After sex she is content to spend a little quiet time with her lover. It isn’t important to her whether this time is spent at home or out doing something relatively simple.

“Fall blissfully asleep, or if it’s in the morning, cuddle quietly before facing the day.”

“Walk by the ocean, hold hands, cuddle, stay in bed, laugh together, sleep.”

“Play some more, shower, and sleep.”