Scorpio Woman – Sexual Astrology

fIn her own words…

A Memory

“The first time we kissed I felt like I was floating. I wanted to kiss every part of him. There were no beds left in the condo, so we went into the bathroom. We teased each other for a couple hours until we couldn’t take it anymore. He lifted me up and fucked me against the bathroom wall. I climbed up a ladder that was attached to the wall and we had incredibly crazy animalistic sex there. Then he sat on the toilet while I climbed on top of him and we had sex really slowly, taking in every minute. Finally we had sex on the counter until we were so tired we could hardly move and I could hardly walk. I remember the way he tasted, the way he smelled, the way he looked at me.”

Attraction and Dating a Scorpio

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO SOMEONE?

Brains, an aura of mystery, and the ability to make eye contact to hold her attention are among the qualities most attractive to the Scorpio woman. Her partner should also be in reasonably good shape.

“I am attracted to intelligence. Good looks might draw my eyes, but it is a man’s mind that turns me on.”

“Intelligence and humor first and foremost; the physical usually takes care of itself. My mother used to say, ‘when you love someone they become beautiful to you’ and I have found that to be true.”

WHAT MIGHT TURN YOU OFF?

Behaviors that she dislikes turn away the Scorpio woman much more than any specific physical characteristics. In fact, she’ll overlook a lot if a man can hold her interest and is competent in his field of endeavor.

“It doesn’t matter how hot he is; a negative attitude will make him ugly to me.”

“Being too clingy, low self-confidence, takes himself too seriously, dishonesty.”

“Not listening to me, being cheap, no sense of humor.”

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING ON A DATE?

Scorpio prefers quiet evening-out activities, especially when in a new relationship. She doesn’t rush to get to know a man and may not trust her first impressions. Attending large parties is okay on occasion, but such outings are by no means her preference.

“I like a variety of things: hanging out at home or at the beach, maybe going out with friends as a group, or doing something outside. I love being outdoors. I like guys who will just go with the flow and see where the date will take us.”

“I try to just open up and let what’s going to happen, happen. If it’s not working you can’t force it. The chemistry has to be there. If it is, you are swept away by it.”

A Fantasy

“I have this fantasy of going to my husband’s office, locking the door, and sucking his cock while he’s typing on the computer. And every time someone knocks on the door, I run my lips right down to the bottom of the shaft and suck harder. And when he is on the phone, I tease that head even more. His only hope is that when he finally comes, he won’t make a sound.”

ARE YOU FLIRTATIOUS?

The Scorpio woman loves being noticed and makes sure that she is. Her method of flirting is subtle, more through body language than with conversation. Her way of watching a man— that unflinching eye contact—makes it clear that she’s interested in him.

“I am more of a tease. I like guys to chase me, not me chasing them.”

“I am the most flirtatious person I know … sometimes more than is acceptable in some situations.”

ARE YOU JEALOUS?

Scorpio’s keywords are “I desire.” If she thinks for a minute that her lover desires another woman, he’ll find out that “hell has no fury like a woman scorned.”

“I expect a man’s undivided attention. If he openly looks at other women I will feel jealous and the relationship won’t last long.”

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF ATTENTION?

Perhaps because her sex drive is so strong and acts of affection trigger it, a little loving in public is fine, but more than that is not. Also, Scorpio is a very private woman and doesn’t like to advertise anything about herself.

“A very little bit is okay. I don’t like it when people hang off each other.”

“I don’t like it when other people do it, but I like to.”

“I prefer them to public displays of aggression.”

A Memory

“Smell of clean clothes, in a closet with the lights out and the door ajar. There is not much room and we struggle to take off our clothes, stepping all over them. Another time, we were on a train in the handicapped bathroom; going down on him and being excited at making him excited because we knew we shouldn’t be in there doing this.”

Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors

HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX?

Scorpio thinks about sex daily and would enjoy having sex at least five times per week. With a good lover, the more she gets of it the more she wants.

“I go through phases, sometimes thinking about sex constantly, sometimes not at all.”

“I’ve never been with a man who wanted sex more than I did.”

“The more often I have sex, the more likely I am to want it.”

HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY? DO YOU ENJOY QUICKIES?

The optimum time for sex is approximately one-half to three-quarters of an hour, with 20 minutes to a half-hour of foreplay. Quickies are fine because the central theme in sex for Scorpio isn’t time—it’s passion.

“When time isn’t an issue, I like to keep it going for as long as I can. If I’m tired or need to get up early for work I like to get right down to business.”

“Foreplay: just enough to make me very horny.”

Memories

“He was dangerous, mysterious, older. It was spontaneous. He complimented me on my skills. We had fun with each other. We both climaxed. He was very cuddly afterward.”

“Being in a remote jungle lodge in Belize, in a canopy bed with an animal print canopy, candles ablaze, and soft music playing. Making love with the person I adored and knowing he loved me.”

“We used to meet for a quick encounter at lunchtimes. It was also urgent and hot. We called it ‘Funch.’”

WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?

Scorpio believes that sex is too important to do when fatigued, so it’s much better before an evening out than afterward.

“Evening, especially before going out to a party or with friends …”

“It’s usually at night, but the morning is also nice when we sleep in and don’t have to be anywhere.”

“At night usually, but it’s fun all the time.”

HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?

She pleasures herself about three times weekly, but by no means consistently. There are times when she’ll please herself seven times a week, and then go for a couple of weeks without masturbating at all.

HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?

Chemistry is a factor and some Scorpios are philosophic about this; however, most want to take their time despite physical attraction. She isn’t convinced that you can judge a book by its cover and she doesn’t always trust the first impression she gets of a man. So, she wants to spend some time getting to know him before deciding whether a relationship will become sexual.

“Time isn’t an issue. It’s about really knowing a man.”

“I’m trying to get better and stretch it out, to get to know someone first, but sometimes I can’t help myself.”

A Memory

“We had not seen each other in a month. The minute we got together, the feeling was so intense that we went straight to his bedroom. The room was all white and smelled like him, a mixture of sweat and cologne. The bed was soft and small. He was both gentle and yet aggressive. The only sound was our breathing. We just needed each other and wanted to be physically joined.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?

Part of her resistance to becoming sexual quickly stems from Scorpio’s attitude toward casual sex. As Scorpio is the Sign of sex, it is too important to her to treat lightly.

“Anonymous sex is unrewarding and self-destructive … unsafe … maybe it’s fine for others, but it’s not for me.”

“It is immoral. It cheapens and dissipates relationships.”

DO YOU BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY?

She values monogamy but is not above having an affair. She’s highly secretive and can keep things to herself. As such, Scorpio would rather suspect than know for sure if her partner has had a side order.

“I have been married for three years and even though I might desire other men, I don’t act on it out of love for my husband.”

“I do, but it is very hard to do.”

“It’s the only way a relationship can be. You need trust and you won’t have that with someone who is having sex outside the relationship.”

DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?

Perhaps because Scorpio is the Sign of sex and perhaps because her libido is so strong, she looks at sex as an almost religious practice.

“It’s a coming together as one, a melding. We almost switch places—feel our essences going into the other body.”

“It is an incredible bond between partners.”

“It is an emotional connection that enhances everything in a relationship.”

A Fantasy

“I am an actress in a film being shot on the beach. I’m with several other actors. We take a break and head down toward the water. We wind up performing oral sex on each other, having intercourse … all with the sound of the roar of the surf in the background.”

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

A Scorpio woman has no difficulty taking the lead in sexual advances. This is not to say that she’ll be aggressive in this manner; rather, as she approaches a man, her behavior will make it obvious that she’s interested and available.

“Yes, provided I am with a partner I can trust not to be cold and rejecting. It is okay if he says ‘No thanks,’ but it must be done with kindness.”

HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?

Generally speaking, Scorpio is equally at ease telling her partner how to please her and demonstrating that with body language, but she loves to hear her partner verbalize his reactions.

“Saying ‘no’ is an art.”

“I use mostly gestures, but when we talk about what we want during sex, it’s a turn-on.”

A Fantasy

“I am a dominant personality in daily life. My fantasies are a counterpoint to that and I am always submissive in them. I imagine sexual scenes in which I am ordered around by my boss, college professors, other men, and even other women.”

DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?

She is intrigued by experimental sex and will try anything once or twice. Her experimentation is likely to include anal sex, bondage, dominance and submission, sex in public places, being shaved, being blindfolded, being spanked, using food, wearing sexy lingerie or costumes, and trying out sex toys such as dildos and vibrators. Given her secretive nature, however, she is not into exhibitionism and is not much of a voyeur. Overall, she is not likely to make many of these behaviors a regular part of her sexual routine. In her estimation mainstream sexuality at its best is as good as it gets.

“I am open to anything that is not painful, degrading, or boring.”

Scorpio’s fantasy life usually involves something hidden and secretive, too.

A Fantasy

“Being initiated into a sex cult, blindfolded in a tent. Others can see everything that goes on. Fires burning, the air is warm. A man cradles me against him. The cult chief enters carrying a long, thick dildo. He pushes it into my vagina. There is chanting as I receive this large totem. The man holding me from behind uses his hand to pleasure me while the totem is thrusting in and out until I cum.”

HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?

She wants to be the center of her partner’s life and thus treats him as the center of hers. When he wants something, whether that is help with a project or simply her attention, she is there for him. Of course, she expects the same in return.

“I’ll do little chores that show I am thinking of him like putting things away that he may have left out, and I leave him notes that say I love him.”

“By anticipating his needs, helping without waiting to be asked, drawing a hot bath and scrubbing his back after a long day, buying small gifts.”

“I watch the baby while I let him nap, or take her out so he can be alone.”

The Five Senses

HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?

With Scorpio, the environment for sex is not of great consequence. She gets so involved with the feelings that her emotions completely overpower her other senses. She does not see, hear, or feel distractions.

“The setting isn’t important. I remember one lover who made me feel like a cat in heat. His place was atrocious, but I didn’t care.”

“Cleanliness might be important, but other things are secondary to the person himself.”

A Memory

“In a cozy cabin with a fireplace and candles lit all around. Some music and a nice heavy blanket on the floor. Lots of kissing and fondling on the floor in front of the fireplace, making nice love all night [and] until morning, cuddling and smooching.”

WHERE DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX?

You name it, she’s there. Ask a Scorpio to describe the most unusual places she’s done it and expect an entertaining list to follow. While some of the locations may be commonplace, one or two of them will undoubtedly be surprising.

“Anywhere, anyplace: changing room in a department store, on the beach, in a ski gondola sitting on his lap (we were coming down, others going up). Once we dug a hole in the snow and put our coats down. Skinny dipping in Yellowstone then [doing it] right there on the shore.”

“Sex is great at the office, in a car, on the beach, anyplace secret and sneaky.”

“I love taking chances. We had sex once in the front seat of a two-seater car in broad daylight. I still don’t quite understand how we managed to fit.”

A Memory

“The best sex is when we have no time restrictions, are really in tune with each other, and have been flirting for hours. We go at it all night. It starts romantically and we go down on each other and lick each other from head to toe. I like to get him so turned on that he forces himself into me hard.”

WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?

With Scorpio, one might ask, “What doesn’t?” She is a powerful woman. When it comes to sex, she wants her femininity affirmed. It pleases her when her lover remarks about the softness of her skin, the lines of her body, and the aroma of her hair.

“When I am in love, I am in the mood all the time.”

“Being with someone who treats the body as a feast for the senses is wonderful.”

“Touch me and kiss me the right way. Basically it’s touch, then caress, then kiss.”

“Talking about sex over dinner, the smell of the person I love, sappy movies.”

“Showering or bathing together, talking dirty.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?

Scorpio gets bored by almost anything that’s done too often or is used too repetitively. If her lover never tries to change things, surprise her, approach her a bit differently, even sex will get boring. She responds to adult movies the same way. A little is fine but a steady diet is not.

“Like it if I am alone, but not as a stimulant if I am with a partner.”

“I find it stimulating and it’s nice now and then, but I would rather have the real thing.”

HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?

Scorpio likes being hugged and cuddled but not to the point where she feels confined. A little will go a long way. More often than not she interprets certain actions—such as her partner sitting close to her and hugging—as the first stage of foreplay.

“I love to cuddle, but I don’t like anyone hanging on me. I like to hold hands and I like to lie close to him before falling asleep.”

“I enjoy it on my own terms.”

“I like cuddling a lot if I really like the guy. If I am only kind of into him then I don’t feel right cuddling a lot for some reason.”

A Fantasy

“It’s summer, hot and sticky, late afternoon. I am walking a nature trail, the air smells like wet leaves. I come face to face with a tall stranger, his bare chest shimmers with sweat. His jeans hide a strong, suggestive bulge. He is masked. His hands touch my cheeks and lift my chin. The tip of his tongue traces my lips, then teases the tip of mine. His tongue coerces mine, weakens my knees. In a matter of minutes his fingers find their way under my skirt (no undies) and feeling my wetness, he slides a hot, hard cock inside. The intensity is outrageous.”

HOW TACTILE AND HOW ORAL ARE YOU?

Given that Scorpio is the Sign of sex, it is to be expected that she would be comfortable with and enjoy all aspects of sex equally. She is an exceptionally tactile lover.

“I like to feel his chest, lower back, and butt.”

“I love knowing every inch of his body.”

“I love touching everywhere, every single place on the body.”

Scorpio is also highly oral, loves to give her partner a blow job but only likes receiving oral sex if he’s good at it.

“Tongue and lips on every part of the body …”

“I enjoy kissing very much, when the other person is a good kisser. I enjoy cunnilingus but fellatio more.”

“Fellatio; I enjoy his pleasure. Deep kissing: yummmmm!”

WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?

Her favorite sex acts are deep kissing, oral sex, and intercourse. Anal is okay sometimes. The lover who pleases her most knows to use his finger to stimulate her G-spot while performing cunnilingus. Nothing excites her more than that.

“I enjoy foreplay and intercourse, kissing, and oral sex. A favorite would be hard to pick.”

“Good old-fashioned hot and heavy intercourse and sixty-nine.”

“Fast and deep intercourse …”

Memories

“I came home and found my honey in bed sleeping. I took a shower, [snuck] into bed, and pounced on him. I got his cock hard and used it to make myself cum on him. Then [I] made him lick my pussy clean of all the cum. Then I let him have his way with me.”

“We had just returned to our hotel room. I was wearing a short skirt. He pushed me face down onto the bed and devoured me from behind. Then we had intercourse in this same position. It was amazing: his power, taking me over, his mouth ravishing me, and his fingers probing.”

AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?

Sex is her domain. Her skills are broad, so much so that many men let her take control. She’ll enjoy that for a while because she wants to please him, but in time she expects him to reciprocate and to show that he understands her needs, too.

“My tight pussy, my dirty talk … I can make him cum by the dirty things I say.”

“I am told I am highly skilled—to the point that some men are intimidated.”

“Enjoying my lover with all my senses and letting him know of my pleasure.”

WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?

The Scorpio woman likes musky-smelling or spicy colognes, but they should be kept to a minimum as they interfere with her lover’s distinct smell. She enjoys the taste of her partner’s penis, lips, and neck.

“I love the way a healthy man smells. I can tell if he eats well, drinks a lot, or smokes by his smell.”

“I love the smell of his skin when he sweats during sex. It is HOT!”

“There is a particular taste to his kisses when he is aroused that I love.”

Fantasies

“My ultimate experience that I dream of is spiritual, finding someone who I connect with on such a deep level that we transcend the sex act itself.”

“I am in the office, tied to a chair with no power over what happens to me, submitting to the experience.

“Having him being in total control, being spanked … someone sitting in a dark corner watching us.”

FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?

She doesn’t like the taste of her partner’s cum and prefers that he not climax during fellatio, but her desire to satisfy him takes over so she looks for creative solutions. For example, she might keep a tissue or a glass of water beside the bed.

“I put some toothpaste in my hand and pleasured him before performing fellatio.”

“My current partner has such a pleasant taste, I love it. But in the past I used to imagine that I was swallowing strawberries and cream.”

“I try to swallow it without it touching my tongue or mouth, straight down my throat. I hate the taste.”

DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND ORGASM? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?

Scorpio loves seeing how her partner responds during sex and orgasm and is almost as comfortable having him observe her. The whole experience works better if the room is dimly lit.

“I like to watch his face.”

“I really enjoy it a lot.”

“It’s okay when he watches me, but I prefer to be the one doing the watching.”

The Big “O”

HOW DO YOU REACH AN ORGASM AND HOW OFTEN?

Given the importance Scorpio places on sex and her single-mindedness, she has no difficulty achieving orgasm. It’s irrelevant to her whether her partner favors oral sex, masturbation, or intercourse.

“I can orgasm by any means available and possible.”

“I reach orgasm often and easily through intercourse, mutual masturbation, and oral sex.”

A Memory

“My partner asked me to dance in my underwear for him. Afterward, he touched me gently and fed me some food then he danced with me, [rubbed] against me. We kissed and went to the bedroom. He finished undressing me and gently touched me everywhere, then his tongue licked me all over and he made love to me. Everything was for me. He played with me intensely, and then gently, and kept it up until he made me cum.”

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE POSITION?

Variety is critical to keeping Scorpio happy in and out of bed, so it’s no surprise that she enjoys a range of different positions. Perhaps her favorite is doggie-style because she loves the feeling of deep thrusting.

SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING AN ORGASM THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH ORGASM TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?

She says it’s not critical to her to cum at the same time, but Scorpio is a controlling sign and she’ll strive to reach orgasm with her partner.

“I love to do it together, but I’m not goal-oriented during sex.”

“We are very much in sync and usually climax together.”

“I keep my hand on the small of his back. I can feel when his orgasm is coming. Then I let myself go.”

ARE YOU VOCAL DURING SEX?

Some Scorpios are very vocal during sex. Others reflect the more secretive nature of the Sign and aren’t very vocal at all.

“I am the queen of dirty talk.”

“I am not one to scream out. I just like to concentrate on how good it feels.”

“By nature, I’m not very vocal, but if I sense that my partner wants me to be, I am.”

A Memory

“I [lay] on my stomach with my butt propped up on pillows. My husband whipped my ass while I sucked his cock. He then poured oil all over my back and ass and continued to massage it while penetrating my ass with his finger. I got up on my knees and my husband pounded into me from behind. He then rolled me over onto my back and began thrusting in me while we kissed and I twisted his nipples until he came.”

AFTER SEX WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO?

The Scorpio woman loves sex before an evening out. A warm shower and watching her lover get ready to dress for the evening turn her on. Later at night after sex she enjoys relaxing at home, cuddling a bit, and sleeping.

“I love having sex before we go out for the evening. We’re both showered, not yet tired. For me that sets the mood for a lovely evening.”

“Shower together, listen to music, talk, cuddle, stay in bed, dance, eat, sleep, just be.”