Virgo Woman – Sexual Astrology

In her own words…

A Memory

“In a freshly cleaned house, we showered and washed each other, [and] then he carried me to the bed. There were scented candles going, adding enough light to see and be flattering. There were flowers in a vase placed where I could look at them from the bed. He smelled so fresh and his skin was soft. We rubbed lotion on each other. Then we made love. Very soft, very romantic.”

Attraction and Dating a Virgo

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO SOMEONE?

Virgo is very particular. Penis size does matter: too big may be a problem, too small will disappoint.

“What attracts me is confidence and a dominant attitude. Physique counts: I hate flabby men. His hands must be sensitive in sex.”

“First a man’s smile, eyes, looks, energy, intelligence, warmth, humor. Physical attributes important to me, height, not too skinny, not bald, penis size not tiny.”

“Eyes, definitely, overall outward appearance, and the way he dresses. Penis size is important to me.”

WHAT MIGHT TURN YOU OFF?

Virgo looks so impeccably neat, as though she could repel lint, and expects the same from her man. Inattention to hygiene will always turn her away.

“No sense of humor, bad hygiene, no goals in life, always complaining, obesity.”

“Poor choice [in] clothing, bad teeth or breath, sloppiness or messiness, poor hygiene (I am a Virgo, after all) …”

“I like a man who is squeaky clean—good and clean enough to eat—so bad breath, not being well-groomed, or a man who is unshaved all repel me.”

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING ON A DATE?

Most often the Virgo woman appreciates quiet time with her partner. On occasion she enjoys hiking, sailing, and attending county fairs. She also likes to go to bookstores, art galleries, and antique shops.

“Something different, like a carnival or a zoo; something other than a movie, which is so boring; a chance to talk and laugh, get to know each other, even if it’s just driving.”

“Ice skating, dinner, concert, theater, museum, movies, maybe a boat ride, sit and have coffee, walk.”

“Dinner and dancing, then going parking … Sex in the car or giving head on the highway.”

“Anything out of the ordinary is better, like 4-wheeler mudding, but a movie is okay.”

A Memory

“A party at a high rise. We went up several floors in the service elevator. My boyfriend hit the stop button, pushed me against the wall, pulled my skirt up, hoisted me to his waist, and shoved his extremely hard cock into me. He fucked me hard, grinding against my clit. I came almost immediately. He kept his hand over my mouth to keep me from screaming. He didn’t cum, but [then he] took me up to the roof, bent me over the railing, and fucked me from behind for a good hour. He made me cum over and over before cumming himself.”

ARE YOU FLIRTATIOUS?

Surprisingly, the reputed “Virgin” is a flirt. She may be coy about it, but she turns on the charm with ease almost anywhere and almost anytime.

“Very flirtatious. I am married but not dead. I can read the menu; I just can’t eat off it.”

“Yes, I frequently make sexual jokes and comments with people who respond positively to me.”

“I like to ‘car flirt’ with cute guys driving next to me.”

“I know when not to be or when enough is enough.”

ARE YOU JEALOUS?

Virgo is an analytical Sign. Within her relationships, she is attentive and aware of what is going on. She is more likely to be angry than jealous if she thinks her man is paying inadequate attention to her or too much attention to some other woman.

“A little, but not to the point of being psycho … I like my possessions and am cautious about who I allow playing with them.”

“I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who would put me in the position of having to act jealous. It is a very undignified feeling and behavior.”

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION?

Subtle public displays of affection are always fine to Virgo. Sometimes even going a bit beyond that is also pleasurable.

“I’m very open to it: good for me and the public. I think people enjoy seeing it. I know I do. It is exciting and a turn-on for me.”

“I love showing public affection. I want the world to see how much he means to me.”

“Less is more. Too much is just gross. I can’t stand having a man all over me in public.”

“I think they are great, as long as they are measured. Holding hands is okay, but not getting too physical.”

Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors

HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX

The Virgo woman may not think about sex every day, but she’d like to make love daily. She’ll settle for three or four times per week.

“I like sex as often as possible, but I don’t want to climax every time. I enjoy being desired sexually.”

“Always … I am not kidding.”

HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY? DO YOU ENJOY QUICKIES?

Foreplay doesn’t have to be lengthy, just long enough to get her very turned on. She is expressive and so responsive that she expects her partner to know when it is time to move from the preliminary to the main event. Quickies suit her fine occasionally but she prefers taking her time.

“What is most important to me is how much time is available. Quickies are okay, but longer [sessions with] more foreplay are better.”

“Any amount of time: quickies or long sessions. I enjoy the closeness, intimacy, being wanted by a man, quickie or not. As to foreplay, a half-hour would be great, but 10 to 15 minutes will suffice.”

“Thirty minutes or so depending on feelings at the time and, yes, quickies can be good fun.”

Fantasies

“A man who really loves me approaches me with loving-kindness, talks to me, appreciates me verbally, and handles me. I am fully comfortable with him. We find a quiet bedroom for foreplay and intercourse. We live together forever.”

“Sex with men I don’t know, with more than one man, with other women, being watched during sex or masturbation, and having that person be turned on. My fantasies often feature receiving oral sex rather than intercourse.”

WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?

She’ll make herself available at any time. “I’ll take it whenever I can get it,” she says, but she really does have her preferences. As far as sex in the morning, Virgo prefers coffee first please. If at night, before she gets too tired.

“Not first thing in the morning and not too late at night when I’d rather be sleeping.”

“As long as I am awake …”

HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?

She believes that sex is good for her health so if she has no lover, she takes care of herself. Virgo usually pleasures themselves about three times a week.

HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?

Her answer almost always begins with, “It depends.” The determining factor in Virgo’s mind is developing some sense of emotional closeness. What’s tricky is that she will want some indication from a potential lover that he’s interested in her before signaling that she has such an interest herself.

“It depends on how long it takes for us to be in love. I don’t like being sexual unless there is love.”

“It depends on the person and how comfortable I feel with him.”

“That depends on the kind of relationship I want with a man.”

A Memory

“Candles lit in a white room. A king-size bed. The blinds are up and it’s not yet dark. We play some gentle music and get out the plastic bed cover and sundae ingredients. We take turns being a sundae and scream while getting licked free of the most delectable sweets.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?

Casual sex isn’t appealing to Virgo, mainly because this Sign has a streak of hypochondria and she is afraid of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

“It’s unwise to have multiple partners, for physical and emotional reasons.”

“It is unsafe and leaves you feeling empty.”

“I am not into casual sex. I have to have some feelings for a man before I can be intimate.”

DO YOU BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY?

Absolutely. Being health-conscious, as well as a woman who takes a little while before allowing a relationship to become intimate, one lover at a time is it for Virgo.

“I can’t bring myself to share.”

“Yes, I think in order to fulfill one’s wildest fantasies, there can only be one lover.”

“I give and expect monogamy in a committed relationship.”

DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?

Virgo regards the intimacy of sex as extremely important and fulfilling, good for one’s health and to be engaged in regularly. The sexual experience rises to the level of spirituality.

“I wouldn’t call it spiritual, but I believe it is very special between two people who care deeply about each other.”

“Yes, I feel it brings us together in a way that no other action can. It unites us as one.”

“I think that sex is an act of sharing your soul, a sacred energy exchange that shouldn’t be abused or taken too lightly.”

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

With her analytical nature and her ability to understand her partner, Virgo knows when the topic is appropriate. Nevertheless, she is more likely to signal her willingness, and then wait for the man to take the initiative.

A Memory

“At our beach house in the spa, mid-afternoon, blue sky, sun beating down, birds chirping, and the smell of fresh[ly] mowed grass. We started kissing, stripped off our clothes. He was caressing my body and sucking on my nipples, driving me crazy. He turned off all but two jets and positioned me so that one was on my clit and one was on my anus. It felt like he was in me both ways at the same time. He turned the pressure up to maximum. I exploded.”

HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?

Let’s face it; Virgo wants to get it right. She may be a tad reticent initially but in short order, she will be specific, telling her lover how to please her, letting him know what’s working and what isn’t.

“Both. I will say it first and if that doesn’t work, I will move his hands where I want them, then moan to let him know that that is right.”

“I used to do to my partner what I wanted him to do to me, thinking that he would pick up the hint. I have learned to be specific with words to get what I need.”

“I use words most of the time. My partner and I have great communication. We always check in with each other about likes, dislikes, and trying new things.”

DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?

The traditional Virgo, the Virgin, is mainstream in her range of sexuality, which includes fondling, oral sex, and intercourse. She likes long sex and is very physical, and goes out of her way to satisfy her partner. But in addition to the Virgin, the ancient symbol for Virgo was the Nymphet, lovely and highly sexual.

While both types of Virgo women are very proper in public, the Nymph is a tigress in motion and sound effects, and all in the privacy of the bedroom. This Virgo wants a man who is well endowed. She’ll enjoy bringing him off through oral sex and then work like hell to get him ready for a second round.

This Virgo’s range of sexual behaviors goes from just beyond vanilla sex all the way to kinky. She may be willing to try bondage, dominance and submission, role-playing, wearing costumes and boots, using hot wax, incorporating food, being spanked, and being shaved. For sex toys she’ll try vibrators, dildos, handcuffs, paddles, and anal beads.

“My favorite summer treat [is] filling a condom with water and freezing it. The cold of that and the warmth of his penis are great.”

“I like to use cucumbers and hand-carved dildos.”

Virgo’s fantasies include having multiple partners, voyeurism, and elements of dominance and submission.

A Fantasy

“A wonderful dinner in a candlelit room with a hooded man dressed in leather. Dinner finished, he grabs a handful of my hair and tells me that the training will commence now. A night on my knees, in a cage, hanging, being flogged and tortured— followed by his wonderful raping of my bound and gagged body. Afterward, he cradles me and looks deeply into my eyes and tells me how happy he has been with everything.”

HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?

Virgo shows her affection primarily with attentiveness, by extending herself for her lover. She strives to maintain an impeccable home and to serve tasty, well-balanced meals. Her intention is to make him feel comfortable, relaxed, and attended to.

“Soft kisses, cooking, massage, compliments, even doing things I don’t want to [do in order to] accommodate him.”

“When my husband comes home from work, I make him a gourmet dinner and wait on him hand and foot. I enjoy making him happy. I derive great pleasure from this.”

“Making sure that he is taken care of in any way and listening to him is important.”

The Five Senses

HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?

Virgo says she isn’t overly fussy about the setting for sex, but then she goes on to list the elements that do matter. As it turns out, the environment matters quite a bit, especially that it be clean and warm.

“I don’t care too much about the setting for sex but clean, crisp, new sheets are a decided turn-on.”

“I don’t care about the décor but if it’s not clean, that’s a deal-breaker.”

“It’s not too important, once you are at ease with a person. Candlelight preferred, the temperature comfortable and, of course, a clean environment.”

Memories

“It was about 95 degrees and we were outside on a blanket. It was so hot, from both the sex and the weather, that we were completely drenched in sweat and were licking it off each other’s [bodies] and rubbing our sweaty bodies together.”

“Nighttime, full moon, swimming pool, candles. [We] started out skinny dipping. Night insects, aggressiveness, our own talking in whispers and being watched by some high school boys.”

“Outside on the grass, under the stars on a warm summer’s eve, we started kissing and fondling each other. After a half-hour I couldn’t take it anymore and I had to have him in me.”

WHERE DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX?

Her favorite place for sex is the bedroom, but Virgo says she’s open to making love anyplace that meets her criteria. So, provide a clean and comfortable place at the beach or in a car and she’ll say okay.

“Anywhere that is not physically uncomfortable and [is] fairly private.”

“Bedroom mostly, but the other parts of the house are fair game … Also the woods on a nice summer day or night.”

“Bedroom, shower, kitchen, and out on the deck.”

WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?

Touch is the short answer. Virgo wants all of her senses and her entire body involved in setting her mood for sex. Going straight at her erogenous zones may be okay for the occasional quickie, but not for getting her all worked up for a night of wonderful sex. That requires more care, appreciation of the curve of her thigh, the spot at the base of her neck, the cleft in her chin, or the inside of her elbow.

“Seeing my husband toweling off after a shower does it every time. He still turns me on like a light switch.”

“Seeing sex in movies, thinking of sex, bathing, talking dirty, using a vibrator.”

“I love it when we are both clean and fresh smelling, music, fresh sheets, pretty scenes like a vase of flowers next to the bed, or a good smelling candle.”

A Memory

“Historic hotel, Bourbon Street, New Orleans, midday, sunlight streaming through the windows, comfy bed with big pillows, quiet, smells of clean laundry. We’d just bought a vibrator system for couples. WOW! My partner used it and oral sex to keep me on the edge of climax for so long [that] my lower abdominal muscles ached the next day. Usually our sex is mostly about him. This day it was all about me and he indulged me very well.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?

Virgo likes some adult media. She admits that it’s a turn-on but she also finds it occasionally unpleasant. The adult films she prefers have something of a storyline, maybe some romance—or at least some intrigue. They are more than sex scenes and cum shots.

“It can be hot, but it can also be incredibly tawdry and / or repulsive. It depends on what is done and how it is done.”

“I like to watch it, but on the other hand I can see how it can be destructive.”

“I hate to admit it, but I like the soft or mainstream stuff. Playboy and Penthouse are intriguing. I like a good adult movie now and then, but nothing kinky or weird.”

“Occasionally I like it. I find the more gentle images appealing.”

HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?

Virgo loves to touch and be touched at rather specific times and in specific places. She’s too busy most of the time to have a lover grabbing for her while she’s getting things done. But she very much appreciates indications of his love for her in the form of cuddling in the evening—whether or not that leads to sex.

“I love to cuddle. That is one of my favorite things. Every night when we get the kids to bed and watch a little TV, he lays his head in my lap. I stroke his hair. And in bed we cuddle and watch TV and fall asleep.”

“I love to be held before and after sex. The feeling of being embraced by someone you love is awesome.”

Memories

“A great dinner at a beautiful restaurant. Back home, he lit candles. We took a long bath together, made love in the bathtub, and then in the bedroom, where the only light came from moonlight and a single candle. It was slow and gentle, then rough and wild.”

“In the Outback, at about midnight, those wonderful country smells, almost full moon, lots of stars, [we did it] on the hard red earth on a blanket.”

HOW TACTILE AND HOW ORAL ARE YOU?

Almost everything about sex is good to the Virgo woman. She loves to kiss. But most of all, she has wonderfully sensitive hands. She loves exploring his body with her fingers and gets very turned on when her lover takes time to move his hands around her body as if discovering it for the first time.

“I am very tactile. I especially love running my fingers through his hair.”

“Very. I love to touch and move my hands all over him and me.”

“I enjoy all: deep kissing, oral sex, even rimming as long as it’s clean.”

“I love all of it. My husband says I have an educated tongue. My favorite activities are fellatio and rimming.”

WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?

In addition to kissing, oral sex, and intercourse, Virgo enjoys a variety of other sex acts: having her breasts stimulated, cuddling, feeling skin against skin, and mutual masturbation. Some Virgo women are uncomfortable with oral sex but may be open to it with time and patience. Anal sex is of little interest.

“Oral sex makes me nervous. I worry that I’m not doing things correctly.”

“I don’t enjoy slow intercourse. I prefer rough, hard sex.”

“I don’t like anal sex, but I do like to be touched there.”

AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?

Virgo’s got it all together, organized, and analyzed. She knows exactly what turns him on and what moves to make. Beyond her wonderful hands, she’s proud of her ability to excite her lover with all parts of her body.

“Using my hands and tongue together, hip moving and grinding skills … I’m also good at seducing someone and bringing him to ecstasy before we even have sex.”

“Being able to switch positions with ease and without pulling off …”

“Using my body to get my boyfriend off in the shower …”

WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?

When it comes to sex, cleanliness matters to Virgo, not only in the environment but also on her lover. Skin and hair, newly washed, is her aphrodisiac. She also likes a slight aroma of body lotion or a touch of cologne.

“Skin, colognes, and outside smells like grass or wood smoke, clean smells like soap or fresh laundry, sweat if it is clean sweat.”

“His personal smell … The combination of his cologne, deodorant, and body …”

“Chocolate, whipped cream, anything sweet. I like real foods, not the fake body sprays and oils and stuff.”

“After shower taste, combined with his body during sex …”

“All of him.”

Fantasies

“Rough sex, double-penetration, role-play (master/slave). Being punished, through sexual acts, a little roughness, physical abuse, [but] not to hurt me seriously; being tied up, being ‘raped’ by my partner.”

“My favorite is a threesome, watching my husband bend over a gorgeous woman with big, beautiful breasts, with a clean shaved vagina, while I am tied down and made to watch. Then when he is done with her, I am forced to do both of them. You can use your imagination from there and, oh, put some rough stuff in.”

FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?

Many Virgo women, including those who enjoy oral sex, don’t like the taste of cum. She never wants to hurt her lover’s feelings and appreciates it if he ejaculates in her vagina or outside her mouth.

“I’ll generally spit it out. I find it unpleasant, salty, and gooey.”

“Normally if I’m giving him oral sex we use some other form of stimulation for the last little bit before ejaculation.”

“It helps if he watches what he eats during the day.”

DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND ORGASM? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?

Considering that Virgo puts effort into the moves she makes in order to excite her lover to the fullest, it stands to reason that she would want to watch the effects of her actions. She is equally comfortable being observed by him.

“I am definitely fascinated with watching him please himself.”

“I like being watched by my partner when I am getting dressed or undressed, and I am comfortable masturbating in front of him.”

“Yes to both. I love to hear him and watch him be pleased.”

“We always look at each other in the eyes.”

Fantasies

“Having sex in public places where being caught is probable.”

“I think of my partner in latex outfits, and then using handcuffs and having sex in unusual positions such as the ‘wheelbarrow.”

“In the kitchen, cooking a delicious dinner, then smearing it all over my lover and having sex on the table.”

The Big “O”

HOW DO YOU REACH AN ORGASM AND HOW OFTEN?

Virgo cums “All the time, damn it,” or at least almost every time she has sex through oral sex, masturbation, or intercourse with clitoral stimulation.

“I climax almost all the time through intercourse or masturbation, occasionally with oral sex on me. I once had an orgasm from kissing alone. It was amazing.”

A Memory

“We wanted each other so much. We were parked in a remote area and couldn’t help ourselves. We stripped off our clothes and made love in the car. A loud thunderstorm hit the area. It was incredible: the feeling of safety in his arms, the sounds of the downpour, my partner sweating, hot, with very strong thrusts and then gentle and sweet.”

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE POSITION?

What’s not to like? Spooning makes her feel enveloped by her partner and sixty-nine is always fun. If the Virgo woman has favorites, they include sex in the missionary style or being on top of her partner.

SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING AN ORGASM THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH ORGASM TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?

She loves the high of climaxing simultaneously with her lover and will work with him to make that happen.

“Together. It’s awesome.”

“We try to come together; if not, we make sure each other is satisfied before finishing.”

“I love having orgasms together, but my spouse usually makes sure that I have one or two before he does. Cumming together is my favorite.”

ARE YOU VOCAL DURING SEX?

Virgo can be fairly vocal; in fact, her partner can measure the success of his lovemaking by the volume of her response.

“A little, if it’s bad … a lot if it’s good.”

“Yes, very loud moans and words.”

AFTER SEX WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO?

After sex, cuddling is paramount. The Virgo woman wants a little time to relax against her partner. What happens next depends upon the time of day.

“Touch each other gently, breathe in his skin, linger in the feelings.”

“I like to lie around and talk or snooze a little; then get up and get on with the day.”

“Something together, it doesn’t matter what.”