Libra Woman – Sexual Astrology

In her own words…

A Memory

“I was at my boyfriend’s house, in his room. The room smelled of him, a sweet smell. The lights were low. He started to undress me. There wasn’t a part of my body that his lips didn’t touch. I couldn’t wait to have him in my mouth, inside of me. Then I did the same to him. When we were both ready, he said to me ‘take a seat,’ meaning get on top of him. The feeling of him inside me was wonderful. As I was on top of him we looked into each other’s eyes, and that was amazing. The night went on for seven hours. I have to stop here, because I am getting very turned on and he is not with me at this moment.”

Attraction and Dating a Libra

WHAT ATTRACTS YOU TO SOMEONE?

Libra is the Sign of the arts, of beauty; thus it is that a man’s looks are a prerequisite to getting her attention. After that, as Libra is concerned with communication, his ability to hold her interest will stem from the world of ideas.

“Physical attraction first; sad to say, but if someone is not pleasing to the eye, it is sometimes as far as [my] interest goes. Inner beauty comes through, and if there is no inner beauty even Adonis may not be appealing.”

“Slender, quick, gleeful smile, winks, an upbeat character, plus has to be decent-looking, maybe even handsome. I won’t be seen with anyone [of] whom I am not proud in looks.”

“Physical chemistry, confidence, a nice physique, deep, sexy voice, sexiness (someone who is sensual, passionate), an agile mind, charm, chivalry …”

“Looks first, then the ability to speak/write well … Above-average intelligence is especially dreamy.”

WHAT MIGHT TURN YOU OFF?

Libra, like all Air Signs, focuses on conversation. She notices not only a man’s ideas but also the lips and teeth they pass through.

“Rude behavior turns me off, and yes, ugly teeth too.”

“First, bad teeth; then if he’s a slob, lazy, dresses ugly, is conceited or arrogant.”

“What bothers me is a lack of a sense of humor, bad teeth, having a mean streak, not having a social circle of his own.”

“Ignorance is a turnoff and a man who has poor grooming or is overweight.”

A Memory

“On a beautiful day my lover and I took a ride on a motorcycle to the country. We stopped and bought a couple of beers and went to the park to sit and talk. It was quiet except for the birds and the crickets. We looked at the lake, and then started kissing. He leaned me back onto the picnic table and pulled my pants down, and proceeded to do oral sex on me. Then after I came, I went down on him. It was very sexy and very romantic.”

WHAT DO YOU ENJOY DOING ON A DATE?

Almost anything can be a part of a fun night out: from dining in a beautiful restaurant to a picnic on the beach, from movies to country fairs. The

An indispensable element is a conversation.

“What matters most is being in an atmosphere that allows me to communicate with a date. Sometimes a distraction is okay, such as going to a movie or a club.”

“I enjoy intimate conversations as well as sharing fun activities.”

“Eating, conversing, being affectionate, doing varied things such as horseback riding or going camping.”

“Just spending time with him, talking, dinner, shopping, dancing … A good date is sometimes staying home, watching a movie and ending with good sex. What’s better than that?”

ARE YOU FLIRTATIOUS?

Libra gets the best press of all the Sun Signs, primarily because she is genuinely nice. Her affable ways and her ease in conversing with all people may be perceived as flirtation, but there is no underlying motive. She is simply being her friendly self.

“I think so, but in a very easy-going, comfortable way.”

“People think I am flirtatious and really friendly, but I don’t think I flirt. I just like to talk and be social.”

“I am fairly flirtatious, in a good-natured way.”

ARE YOU JEALOUS?

Libra’s keywords are “I balance.” As a result, she always tries to be fair in assessing a situation. She has a possessive trait when it comes to her man, but jealousy is not a major problem for her.

“I can be so, but I try to control my wrong emotions.”

“I am jealous about my man only. I don’t care what others do.”

“I can be. It depends on the person, the situation, and my state of mind.”

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF AFFECTION?

Libra, the Sign of love, of marriage and partnership, is a romantic woman. She enjoys having her partner hold her hand, give her a hug and, kiss her when they are out together. In general, she is always comfortable with public displays of affection.

“I like showing affection as long as it remains decent.”

“A little public affection can’t hurt. I will hug and kiss anywhere.”

“I love it, makes me feel that my man is proud to have me next to him.”

“I like … receiving them and seeing them. It shows that the rest of the world doesn’t matter to that couple.”

A Memory

“It was simply at home, just a night when we were both really horny. We [lit] candles, played sensual music. I had a blast dressing up: fishnet stockings, a black leather dress, sexy wig. I felt like a different person and my husband loved it. We had a few drinks, and it took off with some incredible foreplay using ice cubes and some flavored lotions. My husband knows where all my zones are and he hit every one that night. I must have cum at least three times.”

Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors

HOW OFTEN DO YOU THINK ABOUT SEX AND HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX?

Libra is the Sign of physical love, so sex crosses her mind daily. It pleases her to have sex as often as five times weekly.

HOW LONG DO YOU LIKE TO SPEND HAVING SEX AND HOW MUCH OF THAT TIME IS FOREPLAY? DO YOU ENJOY QUICKIES?

Libra enjoys spending at least 30 minutes having sex, and sometimes up to two hours. Foreplay lasts from 15 minutes to an hour and a half. Because romance is important to her, quickies are only okay when there’s no time for anything else.

“I like to take as much time as possible. Quickies can be okay, but not as the rule.”

“Quickies are boring. I like sex to take more than an hour, [and] most of that is foreplay.”

“I prefer about 30 or 40 minutes for sex, very little time on foreplay, and I only like quickies when it is eight minutes before work.”

WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU PREFER TO HAVE SEX?

Libra doesn’t like to make little decisions and, in fact, doesn’t care whether she has sex in the morning, afternoon, or night. Anytime when there is quiet and opportunity she is content.

“Sex is a pleasure whenever my partner is here; anytime, whether day or night.”

“Mornings are nice, but so are nights.”

HOW OFTEN PER WEEK DO YOU PLEASURE YOURSELF?

She rarely pleasures herself. When with a partner, she may not do so at all. When alone, Libra pleasures herself as little as once or twice a week.

A Fantasy

“I am in the kitchen cooking when he comes through the door and says, ‘Sexy, I’m home.’ He comes behind me and puts his hands down my trousers. He spins me around, whips off my shirt, runs his lips down my neck to my breasts, to my nipples. Then bends me over the table, pulls my trousers down, the thong to the side, and [he] takes me as hard as he can from behind. Then we go to the bedroom to carry on.”

HOW LONG DO YOU WANT TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE GETTING SEXUAL?

Libra is a highly sexual Sign and may be well aware of physical chemistry with a man in short order, but she prefers to take some time to feel secure in a new relationship. If pressed, she’ll admit she doesn’t like to engage in sex with a man she’s known less than three weeks.

“As long as it takes for me to be assured that there is a real connection between us: days, weeks, months.”

“How long depends on the person. With one man I might feel safe and close sooner than with another.”

“I can’t say how much time because each situation is different, but it is very important for me to know him well before having sex.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD CASUAL SEX?

Sex without some amount of love and romance doesn’t fit Libra’s personality. Without knowing a man at least well enough to be treated to a dinner or two, she isn’t likely to get involved sexually.

“It’s unsafe. I prefer to be with someone I know and feel close with rather than a casual fling.”

“I think it is harmful emotionally, physically, [and] psychologically.”

“I have enjoyed it but have recognized that it can be unsafe.”

DO YOU BELIEVE IN MONOGAMY?

Libra strives for balance in all aspects of her life. More than one lover at a time would be unbalanced in her estimation. In addition, the best sex for her requires a strong emotional tie, and that connotes monogamy for her.

“If two people are truly in love, there is no need to look further. For me, I am then content and satisfied with my one partner.”

“Monogamy is not necessarily important when you are young and single, but I believe that when you are married or committed to one partner, you should definitely be faithful.”

“For me, monogamy builds trust and a greater emotional connection, which makes the sex better.”

“Monogamy is important to me because beyond the physical connection, the best parts of the sexual act are the mental and emotional bonds.”

A Memory

“My fiancé and I had just brought a Christmas tree back to his place in Boston. We spent the afternoon decorating it. We talked about nothing special and laughed about everything. We sent out for our favorite Chinese food and ate on cushions in front of the tree and admired our handiwork. Later, in front of the fire, we made slow, passionate love. I felt safe and warm and very loved.”

DOES SEX HAVE A SPIRITUAL SIGNIFICANCE FOR YOU?

Maybe yes, maybe no. This Sign is ruled by the planet Venus, which represents physical love, so it’s difficult for a Libra to connote spirituality with sex. In spite of that, love and good sex go well beyond the mundane.

“Sex is the highest form of interpersonal connection, the melding of two people. At its best, it encompasses absolute trust, openness, and vulnerability.”

“There are times when I feel so close and so connected to my partner that having sex with him is like getting closer to God.”

“Sex can bring with it joy that transcends the self: a profound, intimate connection with another human being.”

ARE YOU COMFORTABLE INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITIES?

Librans are certainly comfortable initiating sexual activities in an established relationship. With a new partner, however, it is highly unlikely.

HOW DO YOU COMMUNICATE TO YOUR PARTNER YOUR SEXUAL WANTS AND NEEDS?

Libra is a sign of communication. During sex she is comfortable using both words and body language, though her emphasis is on words.

“Purring, sighing, ‘Oh Honey,’ saying his name …”

“Sometimes we read something erotic and discuss our fantasies.”

“I give him attention with sexual touches and whisper in his ear that I desire him.”

DO YOU THINK OF YOURSELF AS BEING IN THE MAINSTREAM SEXUALLY, MORE EXPERIMENTAL, OR OPEN TO ANYTHING?

For Libra women, most sexual experiences are likely to encompass anal sex along with the traditional range of kissing, fondling, oral sex, and intercourse. When there is adequate time she enjoys participating in role-playing scenes of dominance and submission with bondage, spanking, perhaps wearing sexy underwear or incorporating costumes, and using food.

She is something of a voyeur and is open to exhibitionism and sex in public places, done discreetly, of course. Libra rarely uses sex toys other than dildos and vibrators. In her fantasy life, she imagines sex with a woman, multiple partners, and being submissive or raped.

A Fantasy

“I am a virgin bride-to-be. My fiancé and I are kidnapped by an oversexed motorcycle gang. They tie my fiancé up and strip him naked. Then one or two women suck on him while he watches me being fondled by the gang members. I am naked and tied up on a cold slab of rock. Then in comes the leader of the gang, who has a giant hard-on, and who is going to rape me. We are surrounded by a dozen naked men with hard-ons. I am scared and I begin to scream because he is too big, but he rapes me anyhow, and then I really begin to enjoy it and start begging for more as my fiancé watches.”

HOW DO YOU DEMONSTRATE AFFECTION FOR YOUR PARTNER?

Libra has a kind and loving disposition, which is apparent in all of her relationships. With the man she loves, she is consistently attentive to his desires and aims to please.

“Try to be kind and caring always by cooking great foods, listening, and paying attention—even when bored.”

“I anticipate things he might need or appreciate, and surprise him with unasked-for attentions.”

“Listen, don’t judge, be present when I am with him, reflect back his feeling toward me, show respect.”

The Five Senses

HOW IMPORTANT TO YOU IS THE SEXUAL ENVIRONMENT?

Libra is a romantic, ruled by Venus, goddess of love. Certainly a clean, sensual environment will enhance her mood and so she creates such a setting for her partner. A bit of music, a hint of perfume, and a well-placed mirror all enhance the total experience.

“I like it to be romantic: candlelit and with music playing.”

“It’s very important to me: cleanliness, privacy, or darkness sufficient to mask our activities, and set the mood.”

“No doubt about it, sex is better in a prettier environment, but sometimes one has to deal with what one has available.”

Memories

“Having intercourse in a hotel room by the ocean. The windows were open and I could hear the waves crashing on the rocks. The smell and sound of saltwater are a real turn-on.”

“We were staying at a friend’s [house] in a wonderful room full of plants—tall, small, exotic, all shapes and sizes. There was a thunderstorm and we watched the lightning. Against this background, we played soft music and lit candles. We had a great night of sex … one of my best nights.”

WHERE DO YOU LIKE TO HAVE SEX?

Ideally sex is in a bedroom, at home or in a four-star hotel, and on a large bed with plush pillows. In addition, creating a romantic setting, outdoors but private, with comfort, maybe a candle will satisfy the Libra woman’s desire for variety.

“Usually in the bedroom or on the couch … Less frequently underwater and in the woods …”

“Beside the bedroom, living room in front of the fire or outdoors under the stars …”

“In addition to the bedroom, I like to have sex on the kitchen table, in the car, at the beach, and on picnic tables at the park.”

WHAT PUTS YOU IN THE MOOD FOR SEX?

Libra is an Air Sign and so she is turned on by gentle, wordless sounds: sexy music, the patter of rain, the lapping of waves, an erotic movie in the background, reading poetry aloud. These and other sounds build passion in her heart and pave the way to wonderful sex.

“Spending time with my boyfriend; romantic movies; wild weather like snow, heavy rain, hurricanes; gourmet food …”

“Favorite music is number one, [also] dancing, lots of kissing.”

“Slow rhythm-and-blues music, sometimes adult videos, candles, showering together.”

“Whatever triggers my sexual awareness; it could be music, aromas, movies, stories, adult videos, or just remembering a previous sexual session with my love.”

WHAT’S YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARD ADULT FILMS?

Adult videos seldom interests Libra. She is too much of a romantic to find sex scene after sex scene after sex scene particularly stimulating. She is also, however, somewhat of a voyeur, so adult videos of two women together, a woman with multiple partners, or scenes of dominance and submission turn her on.

“It is okay. It gets old fast.”

“I would rather read a good erotic story than look at photos or films.”

“We use it occasionally to stir things up.”

Memories

“We kissed and fondled for at least 30 minutes and then had intercourse for two and a half hours. I came three times. The only light came from my open window and Bjork was playing on the stereo.”

“A lot of candles burning, Sarah McLaughlin playing on the stereo, lots of slow passionate kissing and touching.”

HOW MUCH CUDDLING DO YOU ENJOY, ASIDE FROM SEX?

Since the Libra woman is comfortable with public displays of affection, she enjoys having her lover show his feelings for her with hugs and kisses and by holding hands, whether they are alone or out in a crowd. Cuddling isn’t necessarily a prelude to sex for her.

“I like a lot: hand-holding, kisses, and hugs.”

“A light touch in public, curling up together on the couch, watching a movie …”

HOW TACTILE AND HOW ORAL ARE YOU?

Air Sign Libra uses her lovely lips not only to talk with her lover seductively, but also to turn him on with the passion of her kisses and her approach to oral sex. And while she is good with her hands, the oral aspects of sex are more pleasurable to her than touching.

“I love oral sex and when I satisfy my partner that way it also turns me on.”

“I love kissing his mouth and parts of his body. I also enjoy cunnilingus.”

“I am very oral. My tongue goes everywhere except the anus.”

“I love to touch my lover’s body. For me the most fun is getting him aroused.”

WHAT SEX ACTS DO YOU LIKE MOST AND LEAST?

As Libra is primarily a mainstream lover, her favorite sex acts are kissing, oral sex, and intercourse. Variety is less important to her than just taking enough time to enjoy the special intimacy sex brings. A fair number of Librans will experiment with anal sex, and many enjoy it.

AS A LOVER, WHAT’S YOUR BEST SKILL?

Beyond her oral skills and expressive kisses, Libra is also genuinely loving and attentive to her partner. It is her responsiveness to him that makes her a good lover in all regards.

“My best skill is knowing how to arouse my partner from head to toe, all his special places. That is the ultimate gift to him. The next morning he can’t stop thinking about it.”

“If I want to express love it comes through all over.”

“I think it is my total enjoyment of him, his touch, his taste, and my responsiveness to him.”

Memories

“An aggressive rape scene, where my lover held my arms back and fucked my ass hard for almost an hour.”

“My living room sofa, a friend stopped to visit, started trying to kiss me. I pushed him away calling him a pig. He then tore my skirt off. I pointed to the door and then yelled, ‘Out!’ He lunged at my knees and threw me to the floor. I spread my arms and yelled, ‘Take me!’ We made love all night, laughed all night, and both fell madly in love.”

“It was my first time with my boyfriend. We ran into each other at college and ended up cutting class to go eat and watch a movie at his house. We didn’t quite see a movie; instead, he gave me a full body massage and we had sex for four hours straight.”

WHAT SMELLS AND TASTES ON YOUR PARTNER DO YOU ENJOY?

She relishes all natural smells and tastes of her partner, his lips, and his body, as well as his cologne. Her senses of smell and taste are critically important to the success of the sexual experience for her.

“I like the smell of him and his sex organs.”

“He smells so good to me. It is the animal thing, amazing. I love all his tastes; his skin is like sugar cookies.”

“I love the feel, the smell, and the tastes of his manly, firm body.”

FOR SOME PEOPLE THE TASTE OF THEIR PARTNER’S CUM OR SECRETIONS IS UNPLEASANT. IF THAT’S TRUE FOR YOU, WHAT DO YOU DO ABOUT THE TASTE?

For most Libra women, the taste of a partner’s cum is no problem and most often she will swallow it. Should she find it unpleasant she is likely to keep a glass of water or soda nearby or to ask her partner to withdraw before cumming.

“I don’t like the taste. I keep a Coke nearby. I swallow his cum sometimes, but mostly I either rub it on myself or spit it out.”

“I have no problem with the taste, but he usually cums inside me. If I make him cum by a blow job, I swallow.”

“I don’t like the taste, but I am quiet about it and I wipe it on the sheets or rub it off on anything but me.”

Fantasies

“Having another woman, roughly the same build as me, in an intimate situation with my boyfriend watching.”

“Multiple partners, having sex with four or five men, one at a time, all different ages, being submissive, not domineering.”

“Since I am into dominance and submission, the best is a punishment fantasy: ‘Daddy’ punishing me, then fucking my ass.”

“I imagine my boyfriend taking control and me being submissive. I fantasize about him telling me what to do and spankings, about him tying me up and blindfolding me.”

DO YOU ENJOY WATCHING YOUR PARTNER DURING SEX AND ORGASM? DO YOU ENJOY BEING WATCHED?

Libra thoroughly enjoys watching her partner, but is a little less sure about being watched. As the Sign ruled by the scales, seeking balance she admits that this is a tad unfair of her.

“I like to see him enjoying himself. It is okay to be watched if that pleases him.”

“I like watching him, but I don’t really like being watched unless he asks me.”

The Big “O”

HOW DO YOU REACH AN ORGASM AND HOW OFTEN?

Libra can generally achieve orgasm through intercourse when the position allows for simultaneous clitoral stimulation. She also cums easily via oral sex and masturbation.

“I enjoy orgasm when I am on top of my partner and ride him.”

“I reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation, G-spot stimulation, and anal.”

Memories

“One night in the pouring rain we went out on the deck where others could have seen us. The cold rain fell on my back and body as he bent me over the rail and took me from behind. The leaves on the trees blowing in the wind. It was awesome.”

“We had sex in the window of our apartment [during] a freak April snowstorm. I was leaning with my upper body out in the swirling wind, looking at the orange sky. My boyfriend was behind me, his hands on my hips. The thrill of being so cold externally, while being so hot internally [and] the rarity and wildness of the storm made the experience memorable.”

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE POSITION?

In addition to enjoying being on top or having him on top of her, Libra loves the doggie position because it turns her on to have her lover thrust against her backside.

SOME PEOPLE ARE CONCERNED ABOUT BRINGING THEIR PARTNER TO CLIMAX BEFORE HAVING AN ORGASM THEMSELVES. OTHERS STRIVE TO REACH ORGASM TOGETHER. WHICH IS TRUE FOR YOU?

Libra is easy to please. If her partner wants her to cum first she will. She also loves reaching orgasm simultaneously, but her real objective is to make her partner happy.

“Orgasm is not the specific goal for me. Climaxing together is illusive and phenomenal when it happens.”

“My orgasms stimulate my partner, causing multiples for me and exciting him all the more.”

“I want him to be so happy; that fulfills my desire. For me orgasm can be tomorrow.”

ARE YOU VOCAL DURING SEX?

The Libra woman is moderately to quite vocal during sex. When her partner lets her know that he likes hearing her expressions of pleasure, she is very responsive.

“I am vocal during sex. I don’t hide my emotions.”

“I have a big mouth.”

A Memory

“Away for the weekend at a ski resort: big feathered bed, comforter, lots of pillows, low light, lots of touching and kissing. We just had regular missionary sex, but [I had] the most extraordinary, multiple orgasms.”

AFTER SEX WHAT DO YOU LIKE TO DO?

Except after a quickie, Libra wants to go to sleep. If it is early in the day, she likes to doze a while. She appreciates hearing a “thank you” from her partner.

“I like to be flattered, massaged, to watch romantic movies and stay in bed a while or listen to music, laugh together, have good conversation and then sleep.”

“We talk and then we fall asleep and wake up for a steamy morning.”